During the Wedding Last month, the brides side had two young Vaadhyars. Brides side being from Salem traditionally, did Naandi the previous morning followed by Kaapu Kettal.
We, Palghat Brahmins, dont perform Naandi during as part of Wedding functions. 1/n
We, Palghat Brahmins, dont perform Naandi during as part of Wedding functions. 1/n
And I insisted Vrutham will be on the morning of the Wedding. Our Family Vaadhyaar, 70 who already had a bypass surgery, came all the way from Kerala to TN-Karnataka Border for the Wedding out of respect for me. He told everyone 2/n
"He (me) was thoughtful to request me 8 months in advance. This is the first wedding I am overseeing in 2023. I could have sent my son, but I have far too much respect for him. He is one of the few who doesnt compromise. Hence I came myself. 3/n
I dont normally move out of my native"
Vaadhyaar is a literal tyrant. I told the groom in advance who is in an Asst. Manager cadre in a Manufacturing Company.
"You will see what leadership is in the next two days"
He was surprised "Huh! Better than you?"
"Just watch" 4/n
Vaadhyaar is a literal tyrant. I told the groom in advance who is in an Asst. Manager cadre in a Manufacturing Company.
"You will see what leadership is in the next two days"
He was surprised "Huh! Better than you?"
"Just watch" 4/n
Vaadhyaar came by 1 pm on Jaanvasam day. Had food. Sat with me to plan the next two days. He went over to talk to the Brides Vaadhyaars and in 5 minutes flat donned the mantle of Senior Vaadhyar. The other two meekly accepted his diktat from that moment, 5/n
much to the Chagrin of Brides family.
They had this habit of interfering needlessly for everything. Brides uncle made some suggestions to our Vaadhyar who just said "Oy. Neer Vaadhyaara Naan Vaadhyaara inke"😀. Uncle fled the scene and never came anywhere near the mandapam 6/n
They had this habit of interfering needlessly for everything. Brides uncle made some suggestions to our Vaadhyar who just said "Oy. Neer Vaadhyaara Naan Vaadhyaara inke"😀. Uncle fled the scene and never came anywhere near the mandapam 6/n
after that.
Vrutham was to start at 6 am. Brides Father wanted Vrutham for Groom to be held the previous day, but I vetoed it and he was unhappy. He came and complained to Vaadhar after Janavasam that Muhurtham @ 9.30 am could be delayed because of Vrutham 7/n
Vrutham was to start at 6 am. Brides Father wanted Vrutham for Groom to be held the previous day, but I vetoed it and he was unhappy. He came and complained to Vaadhar after Janavasam that Muhurtham @ 9.30 am could be delayed because of Vrutham 7/n
Vaadhyar barked, "Oy. Anke Avar (me) in charge. 6 am means it will start at 6 am. Athukkappuram clock work pole pokum. Ithellam aadhya kalyanam aanathunale onkalukku experience pattathu. Leave it to me". Brides father vapourized in thin air 8/n
Groom raised a needless point during Vrutham "Naan irukken illaya. Nee pesama okkandu sollarathe sey. Theva illathaikku mandaye odachukkathe". Groom had an amused look on his face and looked at me. I smiled
Our Vaideeham process on Wedding day is a lesson in Time Management. 9/n
Our Vaideeham process on Wedding day is a lesson in Time Management. 9/n
The work flow is amazing and perfected to the minute. I told the groom early morning "Vrutham will start at 6 am and when Aarathi is taken it will be exactly 12 noon". He works in QA and didnt believe me. When Aarati was taken, I pointed the watch at him. It wa 12.02 pm😊 10/n
It was a viruaso Vaadhyar show. There were some very good singers from their side. One was an yesteryear leading Instrumentalists daughter. They sang during multiple times. Once they stopped singing after a song as the Bride had gone to change to Koora Pudavai. 11/n
Vaadhyar "Ponnu Varathu vare paadungo. Nalla padarele. Deiva namam inimayana kural le kekkarathe Bhagyam. Ippo entha kalyanathile ippadi padara?"
After the Wedding he wanted to drive back immediately. When I asked him how much his Dakshinai was, 12/n
After the Wedding he wanted to drive back immediately. When I asked him how much his Dakshinai was, 12/n
he said "I will message you after a couple of days as I have to make some calculations of the dakshinais I gave here during the last two days. You can Gpay me"
"Vaadhyar GPay aa?" I asked incredulously 13/n
"Vaadhyar GPay aa?" I asked incredulously 13/n
"Yenda. I pay my taxes regularly you know. Everything I earn is declared and is in White"
"Vaadhyar, Panam Kaiyile vechirukken. Kuduthudarene" 14/n
"Vaadhyar, Panam Kaiyile vechirukken. Kuduthudarene" 14/n
He thought for a moment, went away and returned "Inke naan kudutha Dakshnai to other Vaadhyars, other Wedding related expenses was Rs 17,800. Ennodu Vaadhyar Dakshinai, neer mudivu pannikko. Enna thanthalum Santhosham"
I reimbursed Rs 17,800 straighaway 15/n
I reimbursed Rs 17,800 straighaway 15/n
He had come in his 7 Seater from Kerala with a Driver. Petrol, Driver, Toll etc would have cost him Rs 10000. I added another Rs 4000 and gave him Rs 50000 in addition to Rs 17,800
"Vaadhyar 50000 irukku. Poralaina sollungo" 16/n
"Vaadhyar 50000 irukku. Poralaina sollungo" 16/n
He was extremely happy. His face lit up. "Ithe Jaasthi"
He was heard telling our family that I have settled completely, very generously, and left
Mandapam felt as if a Storm had passed by after he left
Vaideeham was borne by me. A few of our family members felt I overpaid 17/n
He was heard telling our family that I have settled completely, very generously, and left
Mandapam felt as if a Storm had passed by after he left
Vaideeham was borne by me. A few of our family members felt I overpaid 17/n
I told "He is our Guru and a Veda Pandithan. I have no regrets at all. Also he was instrumental in conducting the wedding hyper efficiently"
Groom had the final word "What amazing Leadership Qualities!" n/n
Groom had the final word "What amazing Leadership Qualities!" n/n
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