in retrospect it's pretty fucked up that you can just say to people "hey you know that hole at the center of your being" and they'll just be like "oh yeah the hole, i know exactly what you mean, love that hole, one of my favorite holes"
this comic about the hole is sort of right but also completely wrong. you aren't born with the hole, it is supposed to be filled with love, and it is possible to actually fill it instead of giving up
preconquest consciousness is a description of what happens in a society of people that never has the hole
ranprieur.com
ranprieur.com
you can sort of glimpse what it's like to not have the hole on MDMA but by default it doesn't last. need to actually do some healing work while the MDMA is there to facilitate it. resurfacing painful memories, talking to yourself, etc. generally giving yourself what you need
ideal parent figure protocol (IPFP) is the most directly hole-filling therapy modality i know of. supposedly you aren't supposed to administer it to yourself though, idk
anodea judith's suggestions for working with the bottom four chakras are also probably highly relevant
hole is funny because it's one of the sex words
richard schwartz calls the hole "the empty self" and claims it is specifically the result of american society becoming worse at raising children after WWII
the dalai lama doesn't know what the hole is
> the Dalai Lama tilted his head, his eyes narrowed in confusion. βSelf-hatred?β he repeated in English. βWhat is that?β
> the Dalai Lama tilted his head, his eyes narrowed in confusion. βSelf-hatred?β he repeated in English. βWhat is that?β
amazing, some sweet sweet empiricism
some useful nuance here
this is tricky stuff to talk about because 1) talking about it shapes how you relate to it and you may not want to relate to it the way the concepts i'm using here imply, this is finger-pointing-at-the-moon type territory, ignore all the specific words if they aren't helpful
and 2) roughly the way cult leaders work is that, either explicitly or through vibes, they attempt to promise to you that they and *only* they can fill the hole (so they need to find people who have gigantic holes to exploit). so the hole can become a tool to control people
so i figure that as a general defusing-cults strategy i can try to make information about the hole and what to do with it publicly available from multiple sources. it doesn't have to be esoteric knowledge you have to fuck some manipulative asshole to acquire
here's an entire book about how cult leaders use the hole to manipulate people. this is the sort of thing i wish i'd known even existed, before
amazon.com
amazon.com
here's another book which is also about a cult but it's a personal story and probably easier to read. the other book i've only read the first few pages of but this one was a page-turner. really well-written, very relevant to my life
amazon.com
amazon.com
alternative? somehow secretly compatible? take:
MIKE TYSON
CHILDREN'S SONGS
hmm
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