JUDGEMENT: How our Decisions Affect our Relationships.
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Judgement basically refers to a person's decision making process determined by their thought process, character and values.Ā
When people are faced with a choice to make, they reach their conclusion based on what they feel suits them, is more convenient or meets their needs.
When people are faced with a choice to make, they reach their conclusion based on what they feel suits them, is more convenient or meets their needs.
In a committed relationship, our lives are linked together with that of our partner in such a way that the decision of one affects the life of the other partner.Ā
This is why it's essential to be with a partner that we trust their judgement.
This is why it's essential to be with a partner that we trust their judgement.
Having a partner whose judgement aligns with ours will eliminate lots of disagreements and compromise, improve understanding and ensure swift decision making as both partners will usually want the same things.
There five (4) essential areas that a misalignment in judgement can outrightly threaten the existence of a relationship:Ā
- raising kidsĀ
- parental rolesĀ
- supporting other family membersĀ
- handling finances
- raising kidsĀ
- parental rolesĀ
- supporting other family membersĀ
- handling finances
RAISING KIDSĀ
Long before a child is born each parent already has an idea and vision of what they feel is best for the child.Ā
Where this differ, each parent may accuse the other of being a bad parent or raising the child "wrongly"
Long before a child is born each parent already has an idea and vision of what they feel is best for the child.Ā
Where this differ, each parent may accuse the other of being a bad parent or raising the child "wrongly"
For instance, if one parent supports the child to be a footballer without first going to college and the other thinks he should first study, a disagreement will arise; which if not properly handled can spiral out of control
PARENTAL ROLESĀ
If one parent has the notion that the other should sacrifice their career to solely take care of kids at home; while they work twice as hard to cater the family needs, a disagreement may ensue, simply cos the vision isn't the same and not cos it's right or wrong
If one parent has the notion that the other should sacrifice their career to solely take care of kids at home; while they work twice as hard to cater the family needs, a disagreement may ensue, simply cos the vision isn't the same and not cos it's right or wrong
The one that's sacrificing the career might fill stifled; and in the event of disagreeing with this, the one that wants to work twice as hard will blame them everytime the kids' domestic needs aren't met.Ā
"You could have been at home doing this"
"You could have been at home doing this"
SUPPORTING OTHER FAMILY MEMBERSĀ
If one partner is from a close-knit family and the other not so much, there'll be disagreements in how each feels family members should be treated and supported.Ā
"I know they're family buy I think that you're doing too much"
If one partner is from a close-knit family and the other not so much, there'll be disagreements in how each feels family members should be treated and supported.Ā
"I know they're family buy I think that you're doing too much"
HANDLING FINANCESĀ
Money is essential in a relationship cos the bills will have to be paid. Where one partner has been raised in a home run lavishly they'll struggle to understand why their partner is being prudent (translated as miserly).
Money is essential in a relationship cos the bills will have to be paid. Where one partner has been raised in a home run lavishly they'll struggle to understand why their partner is being prudent (translated as miserly).
The prudent one will mostly get offended by the purchases of the other partner; and where they're the ones making the money, it could get really heated and eventually out of control.
Summary:Ā
No two people are completely the same and our differences will show up in what we consider good or bad, suitable and not. However, being with someone who has the same core values will mean that there are more similarities than differences.
No two people are completely the same and our differences will show up in what we consider good or bad, suitable and not. However, being with someone who has the same core values will mean that there are more similarities than differences.
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