Two of the greatest leaders on screen
Jessica Pearson and Harvey Specter.
Both are in dominating positions and know how to be respected
Here’s what you can learn from their interactions to humiliate a dominating behavior and step into a leader
Jessica Pearson and Harvey Specter.
Both are in dominating positions and know how to be respected
Here’s what you can learn from their interactions to humiliate a dominating behavior and step into a leader
In each of your Social interactions, there is always an invisible hierarchy that takes place.
You either step in as a leader, who is dominant in the interactions and imposes his opinions.
Or as a simple follower who gets crushed and looks for validation.
Or as a simple follower who gets crushed and looks for validation.
Here, I'll show situations that you could encounter in your everyday life.
And from that 3 attitudes to develop your:
-Leadership
-Assertiveness
And stop being dominated.
And from that 3 attitudes to develop your:
-Leadership
-Assertiveness
And stop being dominated.
1) Embrace your strengths and differences.
A leader knows his values and strengths.
Sometimes you’ll need to show that you're above average using a subtle strategy.
A leader knows his values and strengths.
Sometimes you’ll need to show that you're above average using a subtle strategy.
People tend to say, "I don't let anyone get over me"
But how many of them stick to it?
But how many of them stick to it?
Watch in this scene how Jessica shows Harvey that she's different from him
Harvey after getting humiliated chooses to point fingers at Jessica saying that she also fell into the same trap.
But Jessica’s answer shows him that she’s special and that she knows it.
But Jessica’s answer shows him that she’s special and that she knows it.
She tells things with confidence without using any arguments.
That's a quality you can find in every leader, called:
" Framing."
It's about imposing your own vision through your own perception of the events.
That's a quality you can find in every leader, called:
" Framing."
It's about imposing your own vision through your own perception of the events.
The challenge is to choose the right framework and to use it in your interactions especially if someone tries to dominate you.
Find your own framework by asking yourself what kind of person you’d want to be.
Then incarnate it with confidence without ever using any arguments to prove it.
Then incarnate it with confidence without ever using any arguments to prove it.
2) Show your calm in tense situations.
In a tense situation, you have 2 choices.
You either get mad and lose control of your emotions or you stay calm and get a better view of the situation.
In a tense situation, you have 2 choices.
You either get mad and lose control of your emotions or you stay calm and get a better view of the situation.
If you can't remain calm, you won't get respected:
Like you can see it's something, Jessica completely masters.
Cause It's an essential quality in her professional life as she's meant to often get into balances of power.
Cause It's an essential quality in her professional life as she's meant to often get into balances of power.
Everything starts with her nonverbal communication:
-Slow movements.
-Distinct and calm voice.
-Good posture.
She's unshakable, and talks with conviction.
-Slow movements.
-Distinct and calm voice.
-Good posture.
She's unshakable, and talks with conviction.
This capacity to remain calm and control your emotions in tense situations is what you call:
"Emotional Intelligence."
If you lose your temper you give your opponent control over you.
"Emotional Intelligence."
If you lose your temper you give your opponent control over you.
Getting emotionally reactive shows that you're affected.
In such situations, you should always call for logic.
You better leave a conversation than let yourself be conquered by your emotions.
In such situations, you should always call for logic.
You better leave a conversation than let yourself be conquered by your emotions.
3) Never wait for Validation.
Every time you get complimented, your first natural reaction is to answer:
"Oh thank you.."
This answer as much as it is instinctive and polite has a slight inconvenience.
Every time you get complimented, your first natural reaction is to answer:
"Oh thank you.."
This answer as much as it is instinctive and polite has a slight inconvenience.
You unconsciously imply that you accept the person to validate you.
Of course, I'm talking here of a context where there is a true balance of power.
And where a compliment can quickly imply a domination standpoint, rather than sincere appreciation.
And where a compliment can quickly imply a domination standpoint, rather than sincere appreciation.
Here is a scene between Jessica and Harvey so you can visualize it better:
Jessica’s reaction shows that she isn't taking the compliment as validation.
She doesn't thank him after such flattery because of the hidden communication here.
She doesn't thank him after such flattery because of the hidden communication here.
Her body shows that she's dominant.
She heard Harvey but calls the elevator first, to show that her time is more important.
Then, the instant answer while looking up and down at him shows that his compliment doesn't affect her.
She heard Harvey but calls the elevator first, to show that her time is more important.
Then, the instant answer while looking up and down at him shows that his compliment doesn't affect her.
What would’ve happened if she had shown embarrassment by accepting the flattery?
The message would’ve been different from a strong and confident woman.
The message would’ve been different from a strong and confident woman.
That's a wrap!
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