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10 Ways to spot a Manipulator before it’s too late…
(And how to deal with them)
(And how to deal with them)
1. Their problems are important, yours are not.
Every story you tell, they have something better.
Every problem you have, they have something worse.
Every story you tell, they have something better.
Every problem you have, they have something worse.
2. They don’t respect your boundaries.
After being around them you feel drained, tired, and confused.
They don’t care who they hurt.
After being around them you feel drained, tired, and confused.
They don’t care who they hurt.
3. They’re passive aggressive
Instead of being direct, they:
•Talk behind your back
•Turn others against you
•Make small indirect comments that make you confused
Instead of being direct, they:
•Talk behind your back
•Turn others against you
•Make small indirect comments that make you confused
4. Constant drama
Watch out for people who:
•Lie
•Gossip
•Blow problems out of proportion
Watch out for people who:
•Lie
•Gossip
•Blow problems out of proportion
5. Actions are different than words
Listen to what people say…
…Watch what they do.
Actions reveal more than words.
Listen to what people say…
…Watch what they do.
Actions reveal more than words.
6. They make you think you’re the problem by denying your reality, shaming you, or shutting down emotionally towards you.
Aka gaslighting…
Aka gaslighting…
7. Silent treatment
They use silence to make you feel responsible for their bad behaviour.
They use silence to make you feel responsible for their bad behaviour.
8. They tell lies
They may exaggerate stories or events to make themselves look good.
And tell lies to feed their ego and manipulate how you see them.
Dangerous people believe their own lies.
They may exaggerate stories or events to make themselves look good.
And tell lies to feed their ego and manipulate how you see them.
Dangerous people believe their own lies.
9. The eyes never lie
The eyes are the window to the soul…
Trust your intuition.
Case study: @eholmes2003
The eyes are the window to the soul…
Trust your intuition.
Case study: @eholmes2003
10. Victim mentality
Everyone is out to get them…
•People
•Society
•Government
They always make excuses, blame others, and rarely say sorry.
Everyone is out to get them…
•People
•Society
•Government
They always make excuses, blame others, and rarely say sorry.
HOW TO DEAL WITH THEM:
1. Say NO
When you say yes to everything, you are saying no to yourself.
Stop being a people pleaser and put yourself first.
1. Say NO
When you say yes to everything, you are saying no to yourself.
Stop being a people pleaser and put yourself first.
2. Know your boundaries
How people treat you depends on your boundaries.
Unclear boundaries attract manipulative people.
Know your boundaries so you can draw the line.
How people treat you depends on your boundaries.
Unclear boundaries attract manipulative people.
Know your boundaries so you can draw the line.
3. Limit time with people who drain your energy
If you can’t, get good at ignoring (or confrontation).
If you can’t, get good at ignoring (or confrontation).
4. Distance yourself emotionally
Don’t accept the limitations they project onto you.
5. Don’t apologize for problems they blame you for.
Don’t accept the limitations they project onto you.
5. Don’t apologize for problems they blame you for.
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