…for you to think and you inevitably stop before you have made due consideration and given room for possibilities.
This in essence is the handicap people have when it comes to evaluating manipulative behavior.
This in essence is the handicap people have when it comes to evaluating manipulative behavior.
How it works:
Manipulation works in many ways, however, one thing manipulative attempts usually have in common is they rely on people’s tendencies and very often emotions to work.
Manipulation works in many ways, however, one thing manipulative attempts usually have in common is they rely on people’s tendencies and very often emotions to work.
This means if someone does things that could exploit your tendencies or emotions, they could be manipulating you.
This is where we need to go back to the negative connotation I spoke of earlier.
This is where we need to go back to the negative connotation I spoke of earlier.
Here, they are trying to manipulate you but that does not mean in a bad way.
Remember: manipulating means ‘altering’ and that does not necessarily mean bad.
“He manipulated the wires and saved the plane from crashing.”
Remember: manipulating means ‘altering’ and that does not necessarily mean bad.
“He manipulated the wires and saved the plane from crashing.”
So, they are basically trying to alter your emotions.
Maybe they want you to feel how much they love you. Perhaps for a good reason, perhaps for a bad reason.
How do you know if for a good reason or if for a bad reason?
This is where context comes into place.
Maybe they want you to feel how much they love you. Perhaps for a good reason, perhaps for a bad reason.
How do you know if for a good reason or if for a bad reason?
This is where context comes into place.
When you add context and also add ‘what do they stand to benefit from this?’ It all becomes clear.
You can spot manipulative behavior from miles away.
You can spot manipulative behavior from miles away.
Why did that friend of yours feel the need to come to your dad’s funeral when you told him about the huge $$ willed to you when he hasn’t even bothered to check on you in 3 years?
It could be he really felt the need to comfort you during trying times.
But context.
It could be he really felt the need to comfort you during trying times.
But context.
When two things don’t make sense and you add the element of context, you can tell when something is out of place.
Pay attention to your intuition.
Your subconscious understanding and memories are kept and this allows you to spot patterns that allow you interpret reality a step above what the regular eye can see.
Sounds like a bunch pseudoscience. Ignore all that.
Your subconscious understanding and memories are kept and this allows you to spot patterns that allow you interpret reality a step above what the regular eye can see.
Sounds like a bunch pseudoscience. Ignore all that.
EMOTIONS
Pay attention whenever someone tries to make you feel any certain way.
Why are they trying to make you feel angry?
Why do they want you to feel sad?
Why do they want you to feel happy?
Always ask why?
What do they benefit from this?
Pay attention whenever someone tries to make you feel any certain way.
Why are they trying to make you feel angry?
Why do they want you to feel sad?
Why do they want you to feel happy?
Always ask why?
What do they benefit from this?
This seems like the fastest way to never enjoy life but trust me, if you get good at it, you won’t even know you’re doing it.
You’ll be enjoying yourself yet your defense systems are intact.
You’ll be enjoying yourself yet your defense systems are intact.
Always ask: ‘what do they stand to gain from this?’
There’s always an answer, but it is not necessarily always a bad one.
When it matters is when what they stand to gain is too costly for you to give.
There’s always an answer, but it is not necessarily always a bad one.
When it matters is when what they stand to gain is too costly for you to give.
The practice of always knowing exactly why people do what they do will inevitably make you know (by default) when what they want is malicious or not in congruence with what you’re willing to give/let go of.
Why do they want me to behave in so and so way?
When you know someone knows you have tendencies of engaging in analytical talks and they try to initiate that at an awkward time, you know something is amiss.
When you know someone knows you have tendencies of engaging in analytical talks and they try to initiate that at an awkward time, you know something is amiss.
It is so easy to spot people’s intentions if you pay attention to the details.
At the end of the day you’ll have to become an actor, and all of us are, so you’ll start playing the game.
You learn to fit in to your character and define what that character is.
At the end of the day you’ll have to become an actor, and all of us are, so you’ll start playing the game.
You learn to fit in to your character and define what that character is.
This all takes practice.
You don’t get good at understanding intentions unless you practice every day.
There are many ways you can choose to go about practicing. Some are hard, and others are easy.
You don’t get good at understanding intentions unless you practice every day.
There are many ways you can choose to go about practicing. Some are hard, and others are easy.
If you’re a newbie, go with:
-Why (emotions)
-Intentions
-What’s to be benefited
This will go in congruence with human nature and almost always yield you a practical answer. It’s all math. It’s computable with the right variables.
-Why (emotions)
-Intentions
-What’s to be benefited
This will go in congruence with human nature and almost always yield you a practical answer. It’s all math. It’s computable with the right variables.
People usually only mess up because when it comes to human psychology, adding the variable of emotions and the versatility of human behavior makes it more tedious and they get lazy to compute.
“Oh, I never thought this was possible”
“Oh, I never thought this was possible”
You won’t always be right, but more often than not you’ll be right.
You can’t be lazy to think though.
You can’t be lazy to think though.
I talk about many things as regards to manipulation in The Manipulator’s Bible.
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