Oliver Leche
Oliver Leche

@OliverLeche

13 Tweets 2 reads Jun 05, 2023
If you are scared of ever getting married, read this 👇
Marriage is a beautiful thing.
It is one of the best experiences you will ever have in your lifetime.
There is so much you will learn in marriage.
If you are teachable, you will unlearn, learn and relearn many things in marriage.
No wonder it is called an institution even though nobody ever graduates from it.
If you do not get married, you would not be able to share in the experience even though every marriage is unique.
The ONLY reason people are scared of getting married is marrying a wrong person.
And this because there are more videos and write ups on failed marriages than happy ones.
In all honesty, some of you are a product of failed marriages and
your relationships are not even working so you are even more scared because of this.
You aspire to have a good marriage but nothing from the internet is encouraging or even giving high hopes of you getting married.
In fact, you wonder where the people who get married every Saturday see their spouse.
You have read different beautiful stories of how they met, and you wish someday luck shines on you to have same experience.
Some of you have even gone the extra mile to try to emulate some of the tips you have read on how to attract the right person, yet none has worked for you.
Here's the thing:
There is no formular for meeting the right person.
You only discover the right person for you by yourself.
Your discovery is based on your personal conviction, and self-satisfaction after you must have vetted the person.
Truly, when you meet the right person,
you will just know but you have to be honest to yourself because most times, the person that is good for you will not look like what you want.
The problem most people have is that they to marry to impress as if marriage is a competition.
You may score cheap points by the physical appearance of your spouse,
what they are in the society, their achievements, societal class/ affiliation,
plus the kind of money they have, but you see the real marriage experience between you two,
all of what I have mentioned will not matter even though they have their individual roles they play.
Marriage is sweet is not a fallacy.
But the experience of the sweetness lies in your hands.
Every sweet marriage has days
of quarrels, happiness, celebrations, misunderstandings, anger, forgiveness, commitment, patience, perseverance, understanding, etc.
The list never ends.
You too can experience a sweet marriage.
You just have to find the person that is
good enough for you not because everybody around you says they are good.
And yes, everyone around you can get married before you.
Just do you and take your time to find your own.
Don't allow what you see around you or pressure from anybody
push you to marry anybody just because they are available and ready.
Don't make the available your desirable if you are doing it under pressure or to prove a point.
Don't even pressure yourself.
Depression due to singleness is better than depression due to a bad marriage.

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