The main difference I've observed between trad marriages who work vs trad marriages who end up badly : trad horror stories almost always happen when the marriage happens shortly after meeting and the woman becomes a SAHM right off the bat. They don't really know their husbands.

These marriages are way more likely to end up in cheating, abuse and abandonment than the ones where the woman became "trad" later on. This is logical because even if people can change, time can provide guarantees your husband has what it takes to be a good protector and provider

This is why the falsely empowering discourse "if he doesn't propose within six months you should dump him and find a real man sis 💅" is absurdly dangerous. You don't want to marry a stranger you haven't gone through any hardships or stressful life situations with.

How are you supposed to know if he has a propension to cheat, abuse, lie, be irresponsible, let you down, if you marry him during the honeymoon phase? ESPECIALLY if the plan is to become financially dependent on him and significantly lower your chances for a safe and quick escape

This is why I'm never going to drop a personal source of income until several years in the relationship. If you want to get married quickly and become a SAHM right off the bat then fine but make sure you have a side hustle that can pay the bills in case your marriage goes wrong