9 ways to make your wife despise you.
1. Never make any decisions.
"I don't know. What do you want to do?"
Be decisive. Making the wrong decision is better than making no decision.
At least if you make the wrong one, you can correct it and try again.
1. Never make any decisions.
"I don't know. What do you want to do?"
Be decisive. Making the wrong decision is better than making no decision.
At least if you make the wrong one, you can correct it and try again.
If you don't have an opinion on something, it's NOT ok to say "I don't care."
However, you CAN say "I delegated this task to you and I trust your decision. I need to focus on other things."
And then make sure you focus on those other things.
However, you CAN say "I delegated this task to you and I trust your decision. I need to focus on other things."
And then make sure you focus on those other things.
2. Encourage your wife to work outside the home.
You are placing her in a masculine position, so don't be surprised if she takes on masculine traits.
If you really need the money, better for you to take on a second job or start a side hustle.
Don't offload this responsibility.
You are placing her in a masculine position, so don't be surprised if she takes on masculine traits.
If you really need the money, better for you to take on a second job or start a side hustle.
Don't offload this responsibility.
3. Never work with your hands
- Hire someone else to mow the grass
- Never build anything from scratch
- Always call the plumber when there's a clogged drain or you need to change the garbage disposal
All of these help ensure you have soft hands, AKA effeminate hands.
- Hire someone else to mow the grass
- Never build anything from scratch
- Always call the plumber when there's a clogged drain or you need to change the garbage disposal
All of these help ensure you have soft hands, AKA effeminate hands.
Be prepared to do a few things yourself.
Don't be scared to get your hands dirty.
Commit to learning something new. Take ownership.
It's ok to call for a professional for a lot of things, but don't call them for everything.
Don't be scared to get your hands dirty.
Commit to learning something new. Take ownership.
It's ok to call for a professional for a lot of things, but don't call them for everything.
4. Have no masculine hobbies
Related to number 3, but this one is based on what you enjoy, not based on necessity.
Martial arts, woodworking, fishing, hunting, tinkering in the garage, anything competitive, etc.
Related to number 3, but this one is based on what you enjoy, not based on necessity.
Martial arts, woodworking, fishing, hunting, tinkering in the garage, anything competitive, etc.
5. Always ask for permission
Join that gym. Plan a night with your friends. Invite people over.
Your wife is not your mom. But if you always ask for permission, you are asking her to be your husband.
Being considerate and asking permission are not the same things.
Join that gym. Plan a night with your friends. Invite people over.
Your wife is not your mom. But if you always ask for permission, you are asking her to be your husband.
Being considerate and asking permission are not the same things.
6. Roll over at the first sign of conflict
Stand up for what you think is right.
If you can't stand up to your wife, your wife has no reason to think that you'll stand up to anything else.
She'll need to do the protecting.
Stand up for what you think is right.
If you can't stand up to your wife, your wife has no reason to think that you'll stand up to anything else.
She'll need to do the protecting.
This means you should never apologize...unless you have actually done something wrong.
Apologizing just to keep the peace is even worse than lying. It's also cowardice and apathy.
Apologizing just to keep the peace is even worse than lying. It's also cowardice and apathy.
7. Overshare
Some things you need to keep to yourself.
Some conversations give life to your wife and to your marriage.
Other conversations suck all attraction and manhood out of the room until your wife is wondering if there is even a man in this relationship.
Some things you need to keep to yourself.
Some conversations give life to your wife and to your marriage.
Other conversations suck all attraction and manhood out of the room until your wife is wondering if there is even a man in this relationship.
Don't gossip like a woman to your wife.
Don't vomit out your feelings at every opportunity.
Don't burden her with every little anxiety and fear. Don't make a habit of crying at the drop of a hat.
Ask for counsel. Ask for help. Don't ask for an emotional crutch.
Don't vomit out your feelings at every opportunity.
Don't burden her with every little anxiety and fear. Don't make a habit of crying at the drop of a hat.
Ask for counsel. Ask for help. Don't ask for an emotional crutch.
8. Never let her be a woman
If she doesn't have room to exude her femininity, she'll wonder if she has to act like a man to get anything done.
Let her be weak.
Let her be vulnerable.
Let her pretty up the house.
Let her rely on your strength.
Live with her in understanding.
If she doesn't have room to exude her femininity, she'll wonder if she has to act like a man to get anything done.
Let her be weak.
Let her be vulnerable.
Let her pretty up the house.
Let her rely on your strength.
Live with her in understanding.
This also means to desire her. To use her to fulfill your needs.
She wants to be desired. She wants to be the object of your desire.
Let her.
She wants to be desired. She wants to be the object of your desire.
Let her.
9. Construct your identity around being a consumer
Is your life measured by when the next Marvel movie, Star Wars show, or video game is coming out?
You are a malleable piece of clay, and your wife knows it.
Enjoy these things occasionally. Don't identify with them.
Is your life measured by when the next Marvel movie, Star Wars show, or video game is coming out?
You are a malleable piece of clay, and your wife knows it.
Enjoy these things occasionally. Don't identify with them.
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