A girl gets her habits and attitudes from her mother.
But she gets her self-esteem from her father.
But she gets her self-esteem from her father.
A girl craves male attention and validation.
She seeks it out. From where does she seek it out first?
Her father.
And a good father will provide that attention and validation.
What happens if a young girl doesn't get what she needs?
She seeks it out. From where does she seek it out first?
Her father.
And a good father will provide that attention and validation.
What happens if a young girl doesn't get what she needs?
Let's say she is pushed away and treated as an annoyance all of her young life.
She craves male attention but does not receive it.
Maybe her father ignores her in favor of the TV. Or maybe he never puts down his phone.
Or...
She craves male attention but does not receive it.
Maybe her father ignores her in favor of the TV. Or maybe he never puts down his phone.
Or...
Maybe he is more comfortable with his sons and doesn't really care about relating to his daughter.
If she has older brothers, they may also treat her as an annoyance.
At this point, a girl will do one of two things:
If she has older brothers, they may also treat her as an annoyance.
At this point, a girl will do one of two things:
1. Act out in negative ways to get negative attention from her father.
Negative male attention is better than no male attention.
2. Close herself off. Become timid.
Both will lead to disaster very soon.
How?
Negative male attention is better than no male attention.
2. Close herself off. Become timid.
Both will lead to disaster very soon.
How?
When this girl starts developing into a woman, what happens?
Suddenly, she has all the male attention she could ask for. And she knows *exactly* why.
Up to this point, she has tried but failed to get male attention and validation and failed.
So what has she learned?
Suddenly, she has all the male attention she could ask for. And she knows *exactly* why.
Up to this point, she has tried but failed to get male attention and validation and failed.
So what has she learned?
An insecure girl quickly learns that the only way to get male attention and validation is with her body.
The ultimate expression of this, of course, is sex.
A girl starving for male attention learns that sex is the surest way to get it.
So that's what she starts to use.
The ultimate expression of this, of course, is sex.
A girl starving for male attention learns that sex is the surest way to get it.
So that's what she starts to use.
Women with this warped sense of self are easy to manipulate.
They are easy to exploit. Some men seek out women with "daddy issues" for this very reason.
When the initial high of male attention wears off, they will be left broken.
The evidence of this is everywhere.
They are easy to exploit. Some men seek out women with "daddy issues" for this very reason.
When the initial high of male attention wears off, they will be left broken.
The evidence of this is everywhere.
Broken women become promiscuous for attention.
They are attracted to the wrong types of men.
They believe propaganda and become useful weapons for powerful men.
They become feminists to pretend their brokenness is a virtue.
How do you prevent this in your own daughter?
They are attracted to the wrong types of men.
They believe propaganda and become useful weapons for powerful men.
They become feminists to pretend their brokenness is a virtue.
How do you prevent this in your own daughter?
To keep your daughter secure in herself, shower her with love and attention.
- Hug her.
- Kiss her.
- Read to her.
- Play with her with whatever toy she finds fascinating at the moment.
- Listen with full eye contact.
- Tell her she's pretty.
What about when she's older?
- Hug her.
- Kiss her.
- Read to her.
- Play with her with whatever toy she finds fascinating at the moment.
- Listen with full eye contact.
- Tell her she's pretty.
What about when she's older?
Believe it or not, the advice doesn't change much.
She might withdraw from physical affection in her teenage years, especially if she has issues with her appearance.
Don't let her.
Hug her.
Kiss her.
Give her your full attention.
She might withdraw from physical affection in her teenage years, especially if she has issues with her appearance.
Don't let her.
Hug her.
Kiss her.
Give her your full attention.
You know you're doing things right and giving your daughter proper attention when
- She sits down and puts her head on your shoulder without any prompting
- She starts tickle fights with you
- She's not acting out in destructive ways to get your attention
But a big red flag:
- She sits down and puts her head on your shoulder without any prompting
- She starts tickle fights with you
- She's not acting out in destructive ways to get your attention
But a big red flag:
A big sign (HUGE red flag) that you have some work to do:
She tries to crawl into the lap of other older men.
Start changing your behavior immediately because you are on your way to losing your daughter. She is starving for your attention.
She tries to crawl into the lap of other older men.
Start changing your behavior immediately because you are on your way to losing your daughter. She is starving for your attention.
Girls are not like boys.
Your sons need to be forged into weapons.
Your daughters need to be cultivated and tended like flowers in a garden.
The father is the primary gardener when it comes to the health of his daughters.
Your sons need to be forged into weapons.
Your daughters need to be cultivated and tended like flowers in a garden.
The father is the primary gardener when it comes to the health of his daughters.
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