How Having Bad Posture Helped Me Eliminate Toxic People From My Life
My story.
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My story.
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Having good posture can increase your chances of success in life.
Like it or not, bad posture gets judged by others and good posture can command respect.
And like it or not, being respected by others opens more doors in life.
Like it or not, bad posture gets judged by others and good posture can command respect.
And like it or not, being respected by others opens more doors in life.
Have you ever witnessed a person walk into the room with a commanding presence that captivated everyone without even saying a word?
First impressions matter, and your posture is often your first impression.
First impressions matter, and your posture is often your first impression.
Great posture not only helps how others perceive you, it also helps how you perceive yourself.
When you stand straight and assume a more open stance, your testosterone levels increase, and your stress hormones decrease.
When you stand straight and assume a more open stance, your testosterone levels increase, and your stress hormones decrease.
There is a lot of information out there about the benefits of good posture, and it's valuable and accurate stuff. Trust me, I know.
But how does this affect those who naturally have bad posture because of a medical condition?
Well I'm one of those guys, let me tell you.
But how does this affect those who naturally have bad posture because of a medical condition?
Well I'm one of those guys, let me tell you.
I have a very slight curve in my spine. This pushes me slightly forward but has no impact on my ability to do anything physically like other back problems such as scoliosis.
The only problem I've faced because of it is how I'm perceived by others.
The only problem I've faced because of it is how I'm perceived by others.
From an early age I was always targeted by insecure individuals looking to increase their social status.
These people target perceived weakness to make them feel superior.
Bad posture is a perceived weakness. They target this subconsciously.
These people target perceived weakness to make them feel superior.
Bad posture is a perceived weakness. They target this subconsciously.
You'll read a clichΓ© regularly on this side of X, saying the only way to deal with toxic people is to avoid them.
Sometimes, avoiding toxic people means avoiding everything, they are everywhere.
You can't always burry your head in the sand.
Sometimes, avoiding toxic people means avoiding everything, they are everywhere.
You can't always burry your head in the sand.
So from an early age I found myself facing toxic people regularly.
I was always a naturally laid back kid, and I lost most ewrly confrontations as a result and lost face each time, too.
This caused me to get angry and resort to fighting, as my words had little effect.
I was always a naturally laid back kid, and I lost most ewrly confrontations as a result and lost face each time, too.
This caused me to get angry and resort to fighting, as my words had little effect.
I hated fighting, but being willing to fight gave me the confidence to answer people back.
I was too scared to answer anyone back before the first time I successfully defended myself by fighting.
Eventually, violence wasn't necessary anymore. My good wit was all I needed.
I was too scared to answer anyone back before the first time I successfully defended myself by fighting.
Eventually, violence wasn't necessary anymore. My good wit was all I needed.
My good wit and lack of fear of others then got me through the first few years of high.
Of course, they kept targeting the guy with bad posture.
But most of the time, I could embarrass the aggressor, which was enough to get rid of them.
But inside, it still hurt.
Of course, they kept targeting the guy with bad posture.
But most of the time, I could embarrass the aggressor, which was enough to get rid of them.
But inside, it still hurt.
Because it still hurt and I was young and inexperienced, I could't always maintain this persona.
Also, as the kids got older, they got braver, and I started to lose some fights, knocking my confidence.
But this could have been the best thing that happened to me.
Also, as the kids got older, they got braver, and I started to lose some fights, knocking my confidence.
But this could have been the best thing that happened to me.
I was always a little too nice and laid back at face value, but I never knew this was also a part of why I was targeted at the time, and I've never been one to take things lying down.
This was the point that I joined the gym and a boxing club, still a teenager at this point.
This was the point that I joined the gym and a boxing club, still a teenager at this point.
Within a few months I'd gained a lot of muscle and pretty much made my posture appear normal.
It was at this point that I realised the true reason behind my struggles with toxic people.
I mean, men were now respectful, and women were interested, I wasn't used to this.
It was at this point that I realised the true reason behind my struggles with toxic people.
I mean, men were now respectful, and women were interested, I wasn't used to this.
But I'm not going to pretend the gym was my life, so I didn't always maintain my good posture.
When I didn't maintain it, things reverted back to normal, confirming my suspicions.
When I didn't maintain it, things reverted back to normal, confirming my suspicions.
The next stage of my life was joining the armed forces.
I passed my medical no problem. At this point, I was the fittest I've ever been.
I was not a victim in the forces by any means, but it was a crab bucket full of toxic people and big egos.
I passed my medical no problem. At this point, I was the fittest I've ever been.
I was not a victim in the forces by any means, but it was a crab bucket full of toxic people and big egos.
In the UK, the armed forces has a strong class divide between officers and ratings.
Having a common accent instead of a posh accent caused us more disrespect than bad posture ever could.
I wasn't alone dealing with the bias of toxic people there.
Having a common accent instead of a posh accent caused us more disrespect than bad posture ever could.
I wasn't alone dealing with the bias of toxic people there.
At this point and at the height of my fitness, only really drill seargents noticed made a deal out of my posture.
But if you've ever met a drill seargent, you can imagine how that went. They're very dramatic people.
But if you've ever met a drill seargent, you can imagine how that went. They're very dramatic people.
The problem I faced then was that I was unable to answer back or fight a drill seargent.
Doing either of these two things could have landed me in jail, literally. No matter how much I was provoked.
The armed forces is a different world when you're at the bottom of the pile.
Doing either of these two things could have landed me in jail, literally. No matter how much I was provoked.
The armed forces is a different world when you're at the bottom of the pile.
This is when I learned how to make toxic people avoid me.
It's also the point when I started to analyse situations instead of react to them.
It taught me pretty much everything I need to know about bias and what makes toxic people tick.
It's also the point when I started to analyse situations instead of react to them.
It taught me pretty much everything I need to know about bias and what makes toxic people tick.
As I said before, the armed forces is a crab bucket full of toxic people.
When a crab tries to escape a crab bucket, the other crabs stop him.
In the force's we were often gaslighted into thinking the forces is our only hope in life.
When a crab tries to escape a crab bucket, the other crabs stop him.
In the force's we were often gaslighted into thinking the forces is our only hope in life.
But it was when I Ieft the forces, my life changed for the better forever.
All my jobs have since had lots of toxic people, too.
But answering them back could no longer result in loss of freedom.
I also had the experience of not reacting and being calculated.
I was ready.
All my jobs have since had lots of toxic people, too.
But answering them back could no longer result in loss of freedom.
I also had the experience of not reacting and being calculated.
I was ready.
As a result I was respected and I managed to treble my salary in just 4 years.
Now in my mid 30s, I've managed to get as far as I want to having to deal with toxic people, and now it really is the time for me to avoid them.
Now in my mid 30s, I've managed to get as far as I want to having to deal with toxic people, and now it really is the time for me to avoid them.
I thank toxic people, as if I avoided them I wouldn't be the man I am today, I'd still have my head in the sand.
With all I've learned, it's time for me to move on.
This is why I started my side hustle which involves helping others eliminate the influence of toxic people.
With all I've learned, it's time for me to move on.
This is why I started my side hustle which involves helping others eliminate the influence of toxic people.
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