Transform your life by developing the right mindset - this thread is for you if you tend to overthink.
Learn:
- Self-compassion mindset
- Regret minimization mindset
- Process mindset
- Carefree mindset
- Delivery mindset
A π§΅
Learn:
- Self-compassion mindset
- Regret minimization mindset
- Process mindset
- Carefree mindset
- Delivery mindset
A π§΅
Overthinking is extremely debilitating. It
-Causes anxiety & action paralysis
-You end up wasting hours and days obsessing
-Leads to stress and in extreme cases depression
-Makes you achieve way less than your capability
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-Causes anxiety & action paralysis
-You end up wasting hours and days obsessing
-Leads to stress and in extreme cases depression
-Makes you achieve way less than your capability
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Overthinking can fall into following buckets:
a) Regretting the past
b) Indecisiveness about current choices
c) Obsession over the future
d) Over-reading others' opinion of us
e) Obsession with perfection
Let's dig into each of these and find right mindsets
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a) Regretting the past
b) Indecisiveness about current choices
c) Obsession over the future
d) Over-reading others' opinion of us
e) Obsession with perfection
Let's dig into each of these and find right mindsets
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a) Regretting the past
Ruminating about the past is the easiest way to spoil your future. What you are stuck on is :
-You could have responded better
-What if you would have taken the other path
-Why did something bad happen to you
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Ruminating about the past is the easiest way to spoil your future. What you are stuck on is :
-You could have responded better
-What if you would have taken the other path
-Why did something bad happen to you
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Self-Compassion Mindset
-If u considered all factors, it was the right decision at that time. Beware of hindsight bias. You have no way to know the future.
-Use the past to prepare for future challenges
-Be kind to yourself!
-Forgive yourself, forgive others and move on!
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-If u considered all factors, it was the right decision at that time. Beware of hindsight bias. You have no way to know the future.
-Use the past to prepare for future challenges
-Be kind to yourself!
-Forgive yourself, forgive others and move on!
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b) Indecisiveness
-You continue to be stuck on pros and cons of various options and are unable to decide. You are afraid of making the wrong choice.
-By doing this you keep postponing the decision making. This obsession leads to sub-optimal choices
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-You continue to be stuck on pros and cons of various options and are unable to decide. You are afraid of making the wrong choice.
-By doing this you keep postponing the decision making. This obsession leads to sub-optimal choices
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Regret minimization mindset
-Think 1 year, 10 years, 30 years in the future. Which decision would cause minimum regret. Decide accordingly.
-Jeff Bezos decided to quit his job and started Amazon as he cud find a job again, but not starting Amazon would cause major regret
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-Think 1 year, 10 years, 30 years in the future. Which decision would cause minimum regret. Decide accordingly.
-Jeff Bezos decided to quit his job and started Amazon as he cud find a job again, but not starting Amazon would cause major regret
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c) Obsession over the future
-Think of the worst case. It may not be as bad as fear tells u.
-A friend wanted to quit IIM as she feared failing an exam. Feared not being able to complete MBA. Worst case was anyways that. There was no harm trying. She tried & won.
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-Think of the worst case. It may not be as bad as fear tells u.
-A friend wanted to quit IIM as she feared failing an exam. Feared not being able to complete MBA. Worst case was anyways that. There was no harm trying. She tried & won.
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Process mindset
- Instead of worrying about things not in your hands, measure input. Like hours of work, no of pages written, lines of code etc
- Make a schedule/plan and stick to it
- Keep taking small steps
- Enjoy the journey, else the destination may be meaningless
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- Instead of worrying about things not in your hands, measure input. Like hours of work, no of pages written, lines of code etc
- Make a schedule/plan and stick to it
- Keep taking small steps
- Enjoy the journey, else the destination may be meaningless
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d) Over-reading others' opinions:
We try to fit into other's version of us. By doing that we lose our individuality. It's very debilitating. Makes us feel inadequate & unworthy. You can never please everyone, no matter how much u try.
Just be the best version of yourself
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We try to fit into other's version of us. By doing that we lose our individuality. It's very debilitating. Makes us feel inadequate & unworthy. You can never please everyone, no matter how much u try.
Just be the best version of yourself
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Carefree mindset
-No one cares too much about what you do. They just make passing remarks & forget. Why bother
-No one has the right to judge you
-Love yourself
Who you see in the mirror is the only person that matters
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-No one cares too much about what you do. They just make passing remarks & forget. Why bother
-No one has the right to judge you
-Love yourself
Who you see in the mirror is the only person that matters
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e) Obsession with perfection
Perfection is the enemy of the perfectly adequate. We keep trying to make small changes till we feel it is perfect.
But beyond a point, it is not about improvement anymore, just becomes unnecessary criticism of ourselves.
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Perfection is the enemy of the perfectly adequate. We keep trying to make small changes till we feel it is perfect.
But beyond a point, it is not about improvement anymore, just becomes unnecessary criticism of ourselves.
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Delivery mindset
-Don't try to be perfect. Try to make it work.
-Any great thing is built layer by layer. Work on the 1st layer.
-You will get a chance to improve later.
-As experience grows, you will do better.
- If you put your heart in it, it will be beautiful
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-Don't try to be perfect. Try to make it work.
-Any great thing is built layer by layer. Work on the 1st layer.
-You will get a chance to improve later.
-As experience grows, you will do better.
- If you put your heart in it, it will be beautiful
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πLife building activities u must practice:
1. Meditation
2. Deep Breathing
3. Self Compassion
4. Staying in present
πTake small steps
1. Collaborate with people
2. Seek help from others
3. Make a plan and stick to it
4. Help others, u will end up helping yourself
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1. Meditation
2. Deep Breathing
3. Self Compassion
4. Staying in present
πTake small steps
1. Collaborate with people
2. Seek help from others
3. Make a plan and stick to it
4. Help others, u will end up helping yourself
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I know it is easier said than done. But you must try. Other people can help, but only you can save yourself.
There are 100 reasons for you to not be able to do something, there is only 1 reason to do it. That you have decided!
Be positive! Be action-oriented! Be peaceful!
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There are 100 reasons for you to not be able to do something, there is only 1 reason to do it. That you have decided!
Be positive! Be action-oriented! Be peaceful!
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