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THE BLACK WOMANS OBSESSION WITH THE SOFT LIFE AND BOSS LIFE!
Many modern sisters watch a lot of social media and they follow influencers
Who are living or encouraging their followers to lust after the soft life
Boss life..
this means finding a rich man
This means 5 star restaurants
This means luxurious bags and clothes
This means foreign cars
This means expensive taste!
This means..
Not working..
let’s build..

Let’s start… here
During slavery in America..
The white woman did not work..
Because she didn’t have too
She got to wear nice outfits and hats
And sleep inside the MASTER room
Black women had to watch this from
The cotton fields..
or from inside the plantation house
While cleaning dishes etc
Sisters wanted that lifestyle
They wanted to get away from working so hard.. they wanted to have a soft life!

SUBCONSCIOUSLY 💭
This slave dynamic..
Took a toll on the black American psyche
It made black men admire white women
Who were more feminine women
Because they could afford to be
Due them not being the women enslaved in the cotton fields
And it made black women admire
The white womans quality of life !
And even her hair
(That’s another story)

See for the most part black women
Have always had to work!
And they had to be black
And be a woman and work
At a time where the country was even
More racist and sexist..
I’m sure these Black women
Wanted a soft life..
But working hard was the reality..

OLD MONEY..
This soft life luxurious lifestyle aesthetic
That many white women had for decades
Also many times came from old money!
Old colonialism/slavery/oil/cotton/
Baker/ rubber money..
When black men were finally freed
They had a super disadvantage in the society.. they were kept out of certain
Business opportunities
And certain jobs that many white men
Did not want them in

Josephine Baker although
She was talented herself
loved rich white Men
That could help provide her with the
Soft life..
Sound familiar?
Well Right now it’s some sisters online
Who claim to profess how to be
A black woman That’s seeking
A rich white man so he can help
Give them a soft life lol

Ironically sisters have discovered that
The a tore up wig or a natural hairstyle
Seems to Attract white men..
They hope the rich kind..
While the laid wigs and expensive bundles that mirror a more euro/Asian
Race of women
seem to attract the brothers..

White men that are into sisters
Have seemed to usually
Appreciate the natural hair sisters
Or the ones with the wigs that look more stiff according to sisters
And… You can’t really deny this common dynamic

When Meghan Markle married into
The so called Royal family
Many Black women were
So happy for her and they subconsciously wanted that
Type of lifestyle!
The endless riches!
The waiters the maids the private jets
Not working daily..
The SOFT LIFE

“BALL AND CHILL”-Soulja Slim
Since the old Disney cartoon movies
Young girls have been sold on
A life of luxury
Meeting a rich and wealthy man
And movies are subconscious
Brainwashing mechanism tools
This dream of meeting a baller one day
And no longer having to work again
For most black women is almost
A fantasy..

Most successful black American men
Marry outside of their race..
So these rich brothers are not taking black women Out of the work place either for whatever reason..
Anyway let’s continue

Kevin Samuels platform was really the first platform to highlight
The black womans obsession
With the SOFT LIFE!
As many of the sisters said
that they only wanted high earning men
To the point that they would never have to work again
Because the men Would pay for everything
Kevin caught backlash for explaining to black women that economically
It would be almost impossible

Now this is where we get serious..
Many people are screaming free Palestine as they should!
But they don’t understand that
The black American is the Palestinian of America historically..
the black American is a second class citizen in America..
Many Immigrants come to America
And they don’t understand this dynamic
But black Americans just started getting rights maybe 60 years ago
And still have not received reparations
And maybe never will..
It is still some sundown towns in America
Since integration and the 1964 civil rights act things have gotten better for black Americans in America
But black Americans don’t have 100 years of riches (neither do most whites)
But my point is..
It’s no black Walton family
It’s no Black Dupont family
It’s no black Hilton family etc etc
We have gained wealth through entertainment mostly!
And we don’t own the labels
Or the teams or the leagues
So we are just faces!!
The Majority will not have big success
And don’t know any people with big success outside of celebrity
So many black women must learn this knowledge to understand that
When you compare the black man
To the white man in the society
It may be a factor that’s factoring in..
Just maybe

So Even with the known facts being that
Sociology says most black men
In the society will not be as successful
As most white men based on upbringing
And opportunities plus obstacles
Many modern sisters still choose to hold
Black American men to this unrealistic standard of earning enough money
Legally to retire them so they can stay home and shop all day from luxuries stores and hit 5 star restaurants for brunch take girls trips overseas
Just because etc
This lifestyle has become a obsession for many sisters and they are willing to do anything to get it

We will continue to look at the film
“Temptation”
Because even tho it was a black rich man
That took Judith from her hard working
Regular black husband
The morale was Judith left her good man
For the hopes of the soft life!
She immediately quit her job
Because she didnt want to work
She wanted to be spoiled!

Black women are tired..
Since slavery black women have never
Really gotten a break!
They always had to work for the most part much more than and other group
Of women..
They had to raise kids
They had to work
They had to work and raise kids
And they rarely made enough money
To take a real break..
And black men have been so oppressed in the society or have been so caught up
In street shit or the lack of manning up
That black women seem to be worn out
And they want what they see some of the other groups of women having
A SOFT LIFE

Historically black women have always been the group that was the least
Likely to date outside of their race
But now in search for the SOFT LIFE
And hopes of being retired
Small Groups of Sisters are now online
Discussing ways to find rich white men
That can provide ties lifestyle for them

We started this thread with looking
At the effects of slavery on the psyche
Of the black woman and man
One thing we must remember is that
It did a number on our people
The self hatred
The colorism
The hate for the natural hair
The disadvantage economically
So this obsession with the soft life
For black women
Has led sisters to wanting
The lifestyle that the slave masters
White wife had.. and they never could have because of the black mans lack of finances and power
not working
Luxuries
Shopping
Having maids
The big house!
And Now some of the sisters want
Rich white Men so that they can live
The soft life like white women
maybe many of them always have
Who knows.. also who cares
I’m just a journalist.. we’re just abstract thinkers
But if so It’s the same effect as the rich successful black man..
Who subconsciously wanted the slave masters woman as a status symbol
In the society According to Malcolm X
Interesting

Dr Ali speaks on the differences
In black American women
Using the same financial comparison
As white American women
When it comes to choosing a mate

Feminism and war brought white women into the workforce..
At one time women couldn’t work
Obviously this didn’t include black women because many didn’t have that luxury..
But now that women can work
Many women seem to be dying to get
Off of the work plantation
In hopes of finding a man that can
Take care of them while they just
Stay home shop and take vacations

Also we seen this dynamic in the
Tyler perrys
“A house that prays”
The sister chasing the soft life
And how it made her look down on
The average earning man that she had

Dr Samuels will take us home!
Peace to all the sisters out there
Chasing the Soft life🫶🏾🫶🏾
I may not agree with how you are pursuing it in in totality
But I hope you find peace!
Peace🤲🏾🙏🏾🧵