Only Real Men Can Handle Me
Unmarriageable women always rationalise cope a real man would be able to deal with them no matter how odious or insufferable they are.
As if real men don't have boundaries or behavioural standards + wouldn't simply throw them to the side and choose a woman who's less of a headache.
They always seem to be experts on what real men are whilst simultaneously demonstrating such a poor grasp of male psychology.
It's almost as if "a real man" just so happens to be whatever is conveniently self-serving for them, and not actually the truth.
It takes a lot of delusional arrogance to pass yourself off as an expert on people you barely understand.
And then invalidate anyone in that group as "not real" if they don't live up to your highly skewed + unrealistic expectations whilst you demand absolutely nothing of yourself.
When a man is unmarriageable, he realises he is the issue.
He doesn't go around saying any woman who won't accept him "isn't a real woman" because "a real woman would be able to follow him no matter how weak he is, because a truly submissive and gentle soul is good at following."
But this is what unmarriageable women say about men.
That no matter how insufferable or problematic she is, a real man would be able to deal with her, and therefore she isn't the issue.
It's so painfully disingenuous and delusional. And they actually believe this crap.
Just like a feminine woman isn't inspired to follow a weak man, and will grow resentful of him if she does - guess what? The same is true for a masculine man with an unfeminine woman.
She does not inspire him to lead her, and he will grow resentful of her as he endures her.
Plus, you know, if you actually cared about your potential partner and weren't just ego coping all over the place, you would never want to unduly stress someone you love.
You'd actually want to cooperate with them and do whatever you could to make their job as easy as possible.
A woman who says "he should be able to handle me no matter how dramatic I am" isn't the kind of woman you marry.
That's a selfish woman. A woman who says "I know I can be difficult but will always try to make his job as easy as I can" is the one you marry.
Common sense too rare!
Unmarriageable women always rationalise cope a real man would be able to deal with them no matter how odious or insufferable they are.
As if real men don't have boundaries or behavioural standards + wouldn't simply throw them to the side and choose a woman who's less of a headache.
They always seem to be experts on what real men are whilst simultaneously demonstrating such a poor grasp of male psychology.
It's almost as if "a real man" just so happens to be whatever is conveniently self-serving for them, and not actually the truth.
It takes a lot of delusional arrogance to pass yourself off as an expert on people you barely understand.
And then invalidate anyone in that group as "not real" if they don't live up to your highly skewed + unrealistic expectations whilst you demand absolutely nothing of yourself.
When a man is unmarriageable, he realises he is the issue.
He doesn't go around saying any woman who won't accept him "isn't a real woman" because "a real woman would be able to follow him no matter how weak he is, because a truly submissive and gentle soul is good at following."
But this is what unmarriageable women say about men.
That no matter how insufferable or problematic she is, a real man would be able to deal with her, and therefore she isn't the issue.
It's so painfully disingenuous and delusional. And they actually believe this crap.
Just like a feminine woman isn't inspired to follow a weak man, and will grow resentful of him if she does - guess what? The same is true for a masculine man with an unfeminine woman.
She does not inspire him to lead her, and he will grow resentful of her as he endures her.
Plus, you know, if you actually cared about your potential partner and weren't just ego coping all over the place, you would never want to unduly stress someone you love.
You'd actually want to cooperate with them and do whatever you could to make their job as easy as possible.
A woman who says "he should be able to handle me no matter how dramatic I am" isn't the kind of woman you marry.
That's a selfish woman. A woman who says "I know I can be difficult but will always try to make his job as easy as I can" is the one you marry.
Common sense too rare!
NB: This essay is derived from a thread that was first published by Illimitable Men on 5 July 2022.
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