The wife feels lonely and sad, but the husband has no idea why. They love each other but don't like each other anymore.
This is by far the most common married couple who comes to me for help. And there's a specific reason this is happening.
Here's the reason:
This is by far the most common married couple who comes to me for help. And there's a specific reason this is happening.
Here's the reason:
There's a hidden relationship dynamic playing out in about 50% of adults:
Growing up in families that didn't teach the vital skills needed to maintain a functioning romance has led to generations of adults who can't maintain a marriage and make it thrive.
Here's why:
Growing up in families that didn't teach the vital skills needed to maintain a functioning romance has led to generations of adults who can't maintain a marriage and make it thrive.
Here's why:
You learn skills by seeing someone else using them or by having someone transmit them to you through experience.
In other words, if your parents didn't have a thriving marriage or raise you to form intentional bonds, how will you know what to do?
You're missing skills like:
In other words, if your parents didn't have a thriving marriage or raise you to form intentional bonds, how will you know what to do?
You're missing skills like:
âś…Direct communication.
âś…Making your needs measurable when sharing.
âś…Conflict resolution.
âś…Solution-focused sharing.
âś…Intentional bonding.
All skills these couples are missing, too.
That's why she feels sad and lonely but he has no idea why. No skills, no awareness.
âś…Making your needs measurable when sharing.
âś…Conflict resolution.
âś…Solution-focused sharing.
âś…Intentional bonding.
All skills these couples are missing, too.
That's why she feels sad and lonely but he has no idea why. No skills, no awareness.
This is the practical application of what's called Attachment Theory, which is what I teach. It all boils down to skills and the ability to form intentional and effective relationships with other human beings.
And attachment issues don't have to make an AWFUL marriage...
And attachment issues don't have to make an AWFUL marriage...
Most marriages with attachment issues are just lonely, sad, and confused.
Attachment issues don't have to make like miserable, they can just rob you of the fullness you could be enjoying together.
You can't thrive without the skills listed above.
Attachment issues don't have to make like miserable, they can just rob you of the fullness you could be enjoying together.
You can't thrive without the skills listed above.
So if you're stuck in this boat, if you're in a marriage that's missing skills and it feels lonely, sad, and confused, the best step you can take is to learn those skills that have been missing.
This can help you transform from lonely and sad to thriving as a couple.
This can help you transform from lonely and sad to thriving as a couple.
I know this process can seem overwhelming at times, and like I said - this is the most common issue that makes couples reach out.
You're welcome to connect with me in DMs and ask questions. And if you'd like some direct guidance, I have a coaching package built for this purpose.
You're welcome to connect with me in DMs and ask questions. And if you'd like some direct guidance, I have a coaching package built for this purpose.
Learn your missing skills. Reach out for guidance if necessary. And start thriving as a couple.
And if you want direct guidance to rekindle a marriage that feels sad or lonely, put my 15 years of training and experience to work. Join my mentorship program and get a full year of 100+ calls plus support from people who understand.
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