old thread but I would like to respond- many marriages work just fine with the man "not pulling his weight", the wife shrugs and says "silly boys" and they're fine
You're more complainy, fine- So negotiate for what you want with him like an adult. You're the one being immature.

Moderns were never told "you get what you look for", and modern women specifically were actually told that they don't have control over their emotions & can't be expected to
But seriously, its all how you look at it. If you want a family you have to be charitable.