Why ATTRACTIVE Guys Struggle To Get girls
(The Uncomfortable TRUTH about Being Handsome)
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(The Uncomfortable TRUTH about Being Handsome)
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Alright, everyone, there are definitely big advantages to being good-looking when trying to attract women.
But if you handle it wrong, it can actually backfire.
Being good-looking has its perks when trying to get girls.
Everyone knows that.
But if you handle it wrong, it can actually backfire.
Being good-looking has its perks when trying to get girls.
Everyone knows that.
One major advantage is that you don't need to create an immediate emotional impact like an average or below-average looking guy does.
This is a common strategy discussed by pickup artists and in dating books.
This is a common strategy discussed by pickup artists and in dating books.
You need about 20 to 30 seconds of high, 10-out-of-10 energy to capture a girl's interest, make her invested in the conversation, and show her you're confident.
If you don't put yourself out there for those 20 to 30 seconds, how will she know?
If you don't put yourself out there for those 20 to 30 seconds, how will she know?
This works well for average or below-average looking guys because it contrasts with their perceived value.
If you're average, people might think you're not high status or valuable, with not much going on.
If you're average, people might think you're not high status or valuable, with not much going on.
But if you show high confidence, speak well, and maybe use a clever pickup line, they'll see you as higher value.
This is called a DHV, or demonstration of higher value.
This is called a DHV, or demonstration of higher value.
For attractive guys, it doesn't work the same way.
You already have that perceived value.
People likely see you as high value and abundant if you're traditionally good-looking.
Not every girl will think this, but most will.
You already have that perceived value.
People likely see you as high value and abundant if you're traditionally good-looking.
Not every girl will think this, but most will.
So, if you try to be super energetic and confident with a witty line, it's inconsistent with the value you already have, and it can backfire.
If you're average or below average, the contrast works in your favor.
If you're average or below average, the contrast works in your favor.
My first tip for guys who aren't seeing results with pickup advice is to relax.
Women probably already think you have a lot going on.
Let them believe that.
Be calm, cool, and collected.
Women probably already think you have a lot going on.
Let them believe that.
Be calm, cool, and collected.
Say, "Hey, I don't think we've met yet," with good vocal tone and confidence, but don't overdo it, as it can hurt you in the long run.
Another tactic in pickup advice is called "c-cky funny."
It's where you talk about yourself in an exaggerated way with some humor.
For average guys, saying something like, "Man, you just hate me because I'm s€xy," is funny because it’s ironic.
It's where you talk about yourself in an exaggerated way with some humor.
For average guys, saying something like, "Man, you just hate me because I'm s€xy," is funny because it’s ironic.
They’ll find it amusing and confident.
But if an attractive guy says, "Don't hate me because I'm s€xy," it comes off as arrogant.
Girls already have their guard up around good-looking guys, so this tactic won't work for them.
It’s better to be humble and let women form their own positive opinions about you.
Girls already have their guard up around good-looking guys, so this tactic won't work for them.
It’s better to be humble and let women form their own positive opinions about you.
If you cross the line into c-cky territory, you'll come off as a jerk.
Try to be humble.
Let women assume you have high value and abundance, and don't do anything to ruin that image.
Don't be too c-cky or over the top.
A bit of self-deprecating humor can work in your favor.
Let women assume you have high value and abundance, and don't do anything to ruin that image.
Don't be too c-cky or over the top.
A bit of self-deprecating humor can work in your favor.
If you make a small mistake, you can say, "Wow, be nice if I could read, huh?"
But be careful not to overdo it, as too much self-deprecation can make you seem low status.
Avoid making fun of sensitive things like your income or height.
But be careful not to overdo it, as too much self-deprecation can make you seem low status.
Avoid making fun of sensitive things like your income or height.
Another mistake I see is attractive guys being too high energy and trying too hard with witty comments.
Just be straightforward and natural.
Say, "Hey, how you doing? Nice to meet you. I'm Tony"
It works better.
Just be straightforward and natural.
Say, "Hey, how you doing? Nice to meet you. I'm Tony"
It works better.
Women might also think that a good-looking guy is just looking to add another girl to his list.
If you're serious about a girl, make her feel special and show genuine interest in her.
Let her feel like she won you over.
If you're serious about a girl, make her feel special and show genuine interest in her.
Let her feel like she won you over.
Women love the thrill of the chase and catching the prize.
If you make it too easy, it’s less appealing.
If you make it too easy, it’s less appealing.
Remember, I’m not saying good-looking men have it worse.
The pros of being attractive outweigh the cons in the long run.
Keep working on yourself and become a better person overall.
The pros of being attractive outweigh the cons in the long run.
Keep working on yourself and become a better person overall.
I'm just pointing out some things that might be holding you back if you're good-looking and offering advice for better success regardless of where you fall on the attractiveness spectrum.
Don’t take this too seriously - just go out, have fun, and keep learning.
Don’t take this too seriously - just go out, have fun, and keep learning.
Thanks for reading!
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