This is Dr Becky Kennedy.
Clinical psychologist and parenting coach to over 2.6 MILLION followers.
She went on The Huberman Lab and revealed how most parents are unknowingly sabotaging their kids' futures.
These are her top 6 takeaways to avoid raising a messed up generation:
Clinical psychologist and parenting coach to over 2.6 MILLION followers.
She went on The Huberman Lab and revealed how most parents are unknowingly sabotaging their kids' futures.
These are her top 6 takeaways to avoid raising a messed up generation:
1. Parenting is an exercise in sturdiness.
Sturdiness isn't about being rigid.
It’s more about emotional mastery than anything.
Don’t get sucked into reaction. Observe. And let them sit on their actions.
Sturdiness isn't about being rigid.
It’s more about emotional mastery than anything.
Don’t get sucked into reaction. Observe. And let them sit on their actions.
2. Don’t use external rewards for basic tasks/behaviors.
That’s not setting them up for the real world.
That’s making them fragile.
Focus on building intrinsic motivation and problem-solving skills.
That’s not setting them up for the real world.
That’s making them fragile.
Focus on building intrinsic motivation and problem-solving skills.
3. Frustration isn't the enemy. It's a teacher.
Avoid constantly rescuing kids from difficult emotions.
Let them experience manageable doses of frustration – it’s the only way they’ll learn to handle bigger challenges down the line.
Avoid constantly rescuing kids from difficult emotions.
Let them experience manageable doses of frustration – it’s the only way they’ll learn to handle bigger challenges down the line.
4. Entitlement isn’t about spoiled kids. It's about fear.
"Entitlement is the fear of frustration.”
Gradually expose children to frustrating experiences.
Build their resilience muscle. They’ll thank you later.
"Entitlement is the fear of frustration.”
Gradually expose children to frustrating experiences.
Build their resilience muscle. They’ll thank you later.
5. Parents don't need to be everything to their children.
That’s how they become dependent on you.
Nudge them out of the nest.
And let them find mentors and other positive adult influences besides you.
That’s how they become dependent on you.
Nudge them out of the nest.
And let them find mentors and other positive adult influences besides you.
6. Boundaries
Your relationship with them sets their expectations as adults.
Dr. Kennedy says those expectations are actually what they become attracted to.
That’s why it’s key to teach them to draw lines in the sand.
If you don’t, someone else will.
Your relationship with them sets their expectations as adults.
Dr. Kennedy says those expectations are actually what they become attracted to.
That’s why it’s key to teach them to draw lines in the sand.
If you don’t, someone else will.
The real world has a lot of sharp edges – but you can’t set your kids up for success by bubble-wrapping them.
I see this with heirs who live within the shadow of their family name all their life…
I see this with heirs who live within the shadow of their family name all their life…
But when so many parents don’t allow their children to step out on their own and risk failing…
It’s no wonder the next generation has no resilience to the hardships of life.
It’s no wonder the next generation has no resilience to the hardships of life.
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