Sayujya Gupta
Sayujya Gupta

@GuptaSayujya

20 Tweets 6 reads Aug 22, 2022
4 Psychology Hacks That Can Help You Negotiate Your Way Out Of Any Situation.
Here We Go🧵
Let’s be honest,
Our lives revolve around dealing and negotiating with people.
Whether you want a new iPhone or a Salary increase.
You gotta negotiate with your Father or your Boss.
And what if someone tells you what are the breakthrough points of your conversation?
I.e. the things you need to say for winning the negotiation or convincing the other party,
Wouldn’t it save a heck lot of your precious time and energy?
It surely will!
And today I’ll be telling you the ways to find those breakthrough points.
Ready?
Here we go.
1. BE THE "FRIDGE" OF THE "KITCHEN"
Imagine it’s a really hot day and you come into the kitchen.
Now that you’re inside, you have two options to choose from.
A) Open the fridge, drink the cold soothing refreshing smoothie
B) Prepare yourself a hot beverage like tea or coffee.
Well if you aren’t caffeine-addicted, you're more likely to choose
Option A
It’s similar to a cool person in a heated conversation.
The more calm and cool you react in a heated debate,
The more your chances of winning increase.
It’s frustrating when you’re busy screaming, abusing and arguing and all you’re getting is a smile and chillness in return.
People always prefer the cooler side rather than the heated one.
ā€œAlways Try To Be As Calm & Cool As You Possibly Can In An Argumentā€
ā¬†ļø 1st point
2. HEADS- I WIN, TAILS- YOU LOSE
Whether it’s your personal or professional, making someone follow your decision is a big damn headache.
You want:
- Your colleagues and employees to work according to you
- Your spouse to listen to you
- Your kids to follow you
But following someone other’s decisions sometimes comes to their ego,
And you know how hard it becomes to make anyone Agree with your ideas when their Ego comes into action.
Here’s a way to make a WIN-WIN situation that you sure are going to take away with you.
ā€œThink of two options that are both fine with You
Then offer them as a choice to someone that you’re trying to convinceā€
It’s that simple.
It’s a really powerful technique that is being used by many big negotiators and let’s see an example to which you can relate.
Now instead of asking your child ā€œWould you like to have Broccolis tonight?ā€
Ask this ā€œTell me what would you like to have for dinner kiddo, Lettuce or Broccoli?ā€
Now technically it’s their choice what they want to eat, but whatever they choose from now onwards WAS YOUR CHOICE.
3. ASK FOR HELP
It does feel nice to help someone right?
It gives you a feeling of importance and you feel really happy after helping someone who feels grateful for your efforts and help.
Even if they don’t still you get the feeling of fulfilment right?
It’s a part of human nature.
We tend to help those who are close to us and whom we care about.
Whether they be parents or friends, they help us because they care for us.
Whenever you ask someone for help,
You trick their Subconscious Minds to believe that you’re someone important to them and they start caring for you.
Whenever you ask someone for help you give them a signal that they are superior to you.
And who doesn't like being superior?
So if you want your boss or maybe your crush to like you,
Go Ask For Help.
It’s gonna create belongingness between you and them which helps you deepen your bond with them.
You don’t believe me right?
Go try it yourself, you’ll be glad for this😁
4. START OPENING DOORS
Now there are billions of opportunities waiting for you to grab them.
But you need this skill to be embedded in yourself as soon as possible.
And what is that Sayujya?
What’s the hurry? Let’s talk about it.
Imagine sitting with your crush in a cafe.
You ask her ā€œHey do you like the coffee?ā€
Let’s have a look at what are the options you gave her to answer your question.
A) Yes
B) No
C) You know you’re boring right?
Now, what would be the options if you asked this:
ā€œI really like this coffee, what are your preferences when it comes to coffee?ā€
I’m not a waiter so I might not be able to tell you the options the replier had the second time,
But they far exceeded the firsts.
In simple words:
START ASKING OPEN-ENDED QUESTIONS
When you start asking open-ended questions,
- You find a way to run the conversation
- Learn new things
- Be more interesting
- Know more about others
And that can create opportunities you might never have thought of before.
That's A Wrap
It took me 3 hours to write this thread
I guess it will be so valuable to all of you.
ā­ļøBONUS TIPā­ļø
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