Family estrangement is so taboo in our society. Yet, many people have toxic, abusive, or unstable parents.
We just don’t talk about it...
A THREAD🧵:
We just don’t talk about it...
A THREAD🧵:
We love the idea of loving parents who do everything they can for children. This is a beautiful thing.
But many people who are highly toxic are also parents.
These people abuse, control, sabotage, or make their children’s lives unsafe or unbearable.
But many people who are highly toxic are also parents.
These people abuse, control, sabotage, or make their children’s lives unsafe or unbearable.
In these cases, many adult children have to make the difficult choice to choose themselves.
This is one of the most painful decisions of a persons life.
And our society doesn’t get it.
This is one of the most painful decisions of a persons life.
And our society doesn’t get it.
Many people are met with “well that’s your mother” or “he’s your father he didn’t mean it.”
Even some therapists can push clients to reconnect with family members.
Even some therapists can push clients to reconnect with family members.
Ironically, we would never say these things to someone leaving an abusive partner: “Oh your boyfriend didn’t mean it.”
Many parent child relationships are filled with abuse— & suggesting people reconnect can actually be dangerous.
Many parent child relationships are filled with abuse— & suggesting people reconnect can actually be dangerous.
Of course this comes from a good place or a place of a lack of experience.
If you’ve not experienced parental abuse, you don’t understand the deep emotional, physical, & spiritual damage.
If you’ve not experienced parental abuse, you don’t understand the deep emotional, physical, & spiritual damage.
For many people estrangement is the only way they can get healthy & recover themselves.
If someone’s made this choice the best thing we can do is trust their judgment:
Something their parents has likely never done.
If someone’s made this choice the best thing we can do is trust their judgment:
Something their parents has likely never done.
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