Our ego is a protection mechanism build into our psyche. When you’re not conscious (aware) of the ego, it can control your life. And keep you in cycles of shame.
Here’s how to stop letting your ego run the show...
A THREAD 🧵:
Here’s how to stop letting your ego run the show...
A THREAD 🧵:
Our ego is the self identity. The ego isn’t a bad thing (contrary to popular belief) it actually helps us make sense of who we are & make sense of the world around us.
The sole focus of the ego is to: protect us from pain, & protect our self identity.
The sole focus of the ego is to: protect us from pain, & protect our self identity.
Our ego can easily become triggered & go into over drive when we feel threatened.
A fragile ego feels threatened when: someone has a different opinion, when we feel we are being abandoned, or when our core beliefs are being challenged.
A fragile ego feels threatened when: someone has a different opinion, when we feel we are being abandoned, or when our core beliefs are being challenged.
A fragile ego develops from not being allowed to fully develop a sense of self.
If we were raised in homes where our role was to manage the emotions of those around us & our emotional needs were ignored, our sense of self doesn’t fully develop.
If we were raised in homes where our role was to manage the emotions of those around us & our emotional needs were ignored, our sense of self doesn’t fully develop.
When we have a fragile ego we can be: highly defensive, dismissive, say things we later regret, & take things extremely personally.
Through ego work, we can pause & breathe. We can notice when our ego wants to react & choose to respond in a different way.
Through ego work, we can pause & breathe. We can notice when our ego wants to react & choose to respond in a different way.
Ego work involves noticing how you react when: someone has a different opinion, when someone says something you disagree with, or when you feel hurt or disrespected.
In these moments we become most reactive— later we feel shame.
In these moments we become most reactive— later we feel shame.
The ego always wants to be seen as both “good” & “right” while the reality is life isn’t black & white.
When we’re aware of our ego’s desires to make things back & white, we can choose to have a wider perspective.
When we’re aware of our ego’s desires to make things back & white, we can choose to have a wider perspective.
This makes us more tolerant, compassionate, able to connect, and of course makes us less likely to “defend” ourselves.
For more on ego work see my blog: theholisticpsychologist.com
For more on ego work see my blog: theholisticpsychologist.com
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