I prioritise feedback over outreach. There is no way I can get a quality conversation without blocking a few thousand people. Valuable comments, ideas, references would drown in the ocean of emotional dumping. Therefore, I need to isolate myself from the latter to see the former
I am purposefully looking for comments like this: that's an actual dialogue (that I hoped for) and a valuable input. I learnt something I didn't know before. If I don't block emotional dumpers, comments of value will be buried under the mountains of garbage -> I won't see them
I know many are proud of being direct and straightforward online. But the thing with straightforwardness is that it doesn't scale up. It may work perfectly in one on one dialogue. If there are 10 ppl around, you probably won't share every detail of how you think and feel out loud
Now if it's a discussion between 100 people, we will have to apply even more formal courtesy just so it doesn't degenerate into a fist fight. Talking to a hundred people in a way you would talk to one is not an "honesty", it's an insanity. It's destructive behaviour
The more people are around, the more obvious is the fundamental asymmetry: emotional dumping is very much easier than making a valuable input into a discussion. Ergo, there will be many times more comments with people sharing their negative feelings than those with valuable input
What is worse, emotional dumping adds up. You don't just add your own (destructive) input, you affect other people. You scream, they scream at you, you scream back (read 100500 more comments). Yes, your screams increase my outreach. But they destroy the discussion
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