The best qualities in a partner are someone who: is safe, secure in themselves, and who allows us to fully be ourselves.
Here's key signs a partner is safe...
A THREAD π§΅:
Here's key signs a partner is safe...
A THREAD π§΅:
1. When they feel jealous or insecure, they communicate that to you, rather than acting out.
An unsafe partner can spiral with jealousy and become controlling or dominating. They're unaware of their own triggers and project insecurities onto partners.
An unsafe partner can spiral with jealousy and become controlling or dominating. They're unaware of their own triggers and project insecurities onto partners.
2. They listen when you express your feelings.
They can listen even when they don't agree and aren't invalidating: "that didn't happen" "you always exaggerate" "get over it."
They can listen even when they don't agree and aren't invalidating: "that didn't happen" "you always exaggerate" "get over it."
3. They take building your relationship together, seriously.
They understand that relationships must be built through: vulnerability, open communication, and mutual acceptance.
They're not afraid of the work or in denial that its needed in relationships.
They understand that relationships must be built through: vulnerability, open communication, and mutual acceptance.
They're not afraid of the work or in denial that its needed in relationships.
4. Their words match their actions.
When they say they're going to do something, they do it. Their behavior is predictable. If they can't do something, or something changes on their end, they'll communicate that.
When they say they're going to do something, they do it. Their behavior is predictable. If they can't do something, or something changes on their end, they'll communicate that.
5. Things are kept in confidence.
You can trust that things you tell your partner won't be shared with friends or family members without your knowledge.
You can trust that things you tell your partner won't be shared with friends or family members without your knowledge.
6. They own their role.
They can acknowledge if they've hurt your feelings, and take responsibility for their own actions. They don't blame or deflect, and want to reach common ground.
They can acknowledge if they've hurt your feelings, and take responsibility for their own actions. They don't blame or deflect, and want to reach common ground.
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