9 Signs you were raised by emotionally mature parents:
1. When things didn't go as planned or the way a parent wanted them to go, they focused on solutions and accepted outcomes without outbursts or completely shutting down.
Adult impact: you trust yourself to cope with things, even if they don't go as planned.
2. When you experienced something hard or stressful, your parent was able to listen to you and emphasize with how you felt without making the issue about them.
Adult impact: you're able to understand and share an emotional experience of another person without invalidating them.
3. Your parents had boundaries around what they spoke to you about, understanding that you had developmental limits as a child.
ex: didn't vent about marital issues, or things you didn't have the ability to process.
ex: didn't vent about marital issues, or things you didn't have the ability to process.
Adult impact: you have boundaries around what you share with other people, and establish trust through emotional intimacy rather than oversharing.
4. Your parents understood and respected you as your own unique individual, rather than "molding" or pressuring you to fulfill their own needs of who they wanted you to become
Adult impact: you have healthy dependence in relationships, you feel comfortable expressing yourself and your emotions, and you are able to meet your needs
5. Your parents trusted you to find your own way, encouraged your independence, and allowed you to make mistakes
Adult impact: you don't fear criticism or become paralyzed at the thought of making mistakes. You're also resilient and learn from your experiences.
6. When there was conflict or fights within the home, communication didn't include name calling or shaming
Adult impact: you're able to regulate your emotions and repair after conflict in your relationships and can be respectful even during disagreement.
7. Your parents could let down their guards, play, be silly, and find humor in daily events rather than having rigid responses to life
Adult impact: you can see things from a wider (macro) perspective, which allows you to not cycle into crisis or anxiety spirals.
8. They understood their role was to meet (to the best of their ability) your emotional needs and didn't look for you to be their sense of support or to be a peer to them.
Adult impact: you were able to develop a sense of self, learn who you truly were, and fully emotionally mature.
9. Your when your parents "lost it" or hurt you in some way, they apologized to you.
Adult impact: you acknowledge how you impact those around you and take accountability for your your actions.
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