Dr. Nicole LePera
Dr. Nicole LePera

@Theholisticpsyc

9 Tweets 103 reads Jan 15, 2023
7 Ways To Create A Healthier Relationship With Your Partner:
1. Show appreciation: express gratitude for having the person in our lives not because of what they do for us, but because of who they truly are.
Ex: I love how you are passionate about things that interest you, it inspires me.
2. Have difficult conversations about topics that make you uncomfortable: open conversations about sex, money, preferences, the space you need, family time etc are foundational in healthy relationships.
3. Create support groups outside of your partner: our partner cannot meet all of our needs, and expecting this places a lot of pressure on the relationship. Create support outside of the relationship and allow your partner to do the same.
4. Let them be 'in a mood': if we grew up in an enmeshed home, we can struggle to allow someone to be in a bad mood or to personalize it. Allow your partner to ebb and flow through emotional states. This creates mutual respect and autonomy.
5. Don't expect your partner to mind read: if you have a need and want it to be met, communicate that need. Expecting our partners to just know what we want isn't fair to them. People can only support us if we directly let them know how.
6. Encourage your partner to do 'their thing': all of us have a hobby, an interest, or a quirky behavior that brings us a lot of joy. Allow your partner to do this even if you don't understand it or share the joy around it.
7. Learn how to repair: conflict is a natural part of every relationship. Healthy couples fight, and then address the conflict directly to come to a solution (not to engage in trauma cycles.) Learn how to communicate, to self regulate, and to active listen.

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