7 Signs You Were Raised By Emotionally Immature Parents (EIP):
1. Their needs came before your own and they centered life experiences around them and how they felt.
2. Their behaviors were run by their emotions: they were easily extremely overwhelmed and made impulsive, emotional choices in the moment.
3. When you express how you feel, they become defensive or deflect.
ex: "Oh, I guess I'm an awful parent."
"Maybe someone else should have raised you!"
ex: "Oh, I guess I'm an awful parent."
"Maybe someone else should have raised you!"
4. How you feel is invalidated, often: emotionally immature parents struggle with feeling their own emotions and tend to invalidate their children to avoid feeling.
ex: "that wasn't a big deal"
ex: "that wasn't a big deal"
5. They're always right and struggle to accept different opinions.
6. They have a black and white overly simplistic view of the world: emotionally immature parents tend to generalize or view the world in simplistic (childlike ways)
7. They never got to know you as a unique individual human being, and instead saw you as a way to fulfill their own sense of self worth.
Being raised by EIP can be a very frustrating and challenging experience. It's quite common for a parent to have an emotional age that is different than their chronological age.
Here's some tips if you were raised by EIP:
1. Recognize their behavior isn't personal and wasn't about you.
2. You likely felt something was missing as a child, and can show that love to yourself now.
1. Recognize their behavior isn't personal and wasn't about you.
2. You likely felt something was missing as a child, and can show that love to yourself now.
3. Focus on yourself and your own healing. Your EIP may never change or heal and this is something we can learn to accept.
4. You're not responsible for the emotional state of other adults (even though you were conditioned to believe this)
4. You're not responsible for the emotional state of other adults (even though you were conditioned to believe this)
5. Start to connect with and understand your own needs.
6. Boundaries are your friend. Practice setting and holding them.
6. Boundaries are your friend. Practice setting and holding them.
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