Everyone is trying to manipulate you.
Your parents, your spouse, your boss, the news.
Take the time to think through these 10 tricks & traps
Your parents, your spouse, your boss, the news.
Take the time to think through these 10 tricks & traps
1. Gaslighting
Originated when a man kept turning the gas lights off & on trying to convince his wife she was insane.
They make up scenarios so you doubt yourself. There is no abusive language but they make you question your reality. They want you to question & blame yourself.
Originated when a man kept turning the gas lights off & on trying to convince his wife she was insane.
They make up scenarios so you doubt yourself. There is no abusive language but they make you question your reality. They want you to question & blame yourself.
2. Silent Treatment
We are social & emotional creatures.
When someone ignores you, you'll feel worthless, unloved, hurt, confused, & frustrated
Research has shown that the act of ignoring activates the same area of the brain that is activated by physical pain.
We are social & emotional creatures.
When someone ignores you, you'll feel worthless, unloved, hurt, confused, & frustrated
Research has shown that the act of ignoring activates the same area of the brain that is activated by physical pain.
3. Passive Aggressive
When someone indirectly attacks you.
They will pretend they’re ok & then show their anger in subtle ways like backhanded compliments, sulking, or refusing to communicate.
There's a sense of detachment with how they are feeling & how they are acting.
When someone indirectly attacks you.
They will pretend they’re ok & then show their anger in subtle ways like backhanded compliments, sulking, or refusing to communicate.
There's a sense of detachment with how they are feeling & how they are acting.
4. Constant criticism
What is their intent?
When someone gives you feedback. Are they good-faith actors or are they trying to break your self-confidence?
Constructive feedback is great, we all need insight on how to improve.
Criticism, disguised as helpful is dangerous.
What is their intent?
When someone gives you feedback. Are they good-faith actors or are they trying to break your self-confidence?
Constructive feedback is great, we all need insight on how to improve.
Criticism, disguised as helpful is dangerous.
5. Condescending & Sarcasm
Some joking is healthy & lightens the mood.
Too much can aim to destroy your self-esteem.
Is this person acting like they are better than you?
Are you always the butt of jokes.
Do they do it in front of people?
What's the intent? Trust your gut.
Some joking is healthy & lightens the mood.
Too much can aim to destroy your self-esteem.
Is this person acting like they are better than you?
Are you always the butt of jokes.
Do they do it in front of people?
What's the intent? Trust your gut.
6. Playing on insecurities
This is popular among advertisers. When a cosmetic company makes a person feel unattractive.
It also works well in relationships.
Ex. if you have issues with your masculinity and your partner tells you “Put your big boy pants on and do it."
This is popular among advertisers. When a cosmetic company makes a person feel unattractive.
It also works well in relationships.
Ex. if you have issues with your masculinity and your partner tells you “Put your big boy pants on and do it."
7. Hyperbole and generalization.
Watch out for “You always”, “You never”, or vague generalizations.
They are altering the facts in order to move you one way or the other.
Basically a cheap lawyer in a dingy suit.
Watch out for “You always”, “You never”, or vague generalizations.
They are altering the facts in order to move you one way or the other.
Basically a cheap lawyer in a dingy suit.
8. Triangulation
Two people disagree, and a third person gets pulled in to say which side “wins.”
They choose a third person they know will agree with them, or explain the information to be more favorable toward their side.
Two people disagree, and a third person gets pulled in to say which side “wins.”
They choose a third person they know will agree with them, or explain the information to be more favorable toward their side.
9. Love bombing
When someone bombards you with affection, intense emotions, and excess time/energy.
A manipulator uses love bombing to quickly build intimacy & trust.
Dumb love bombers will ask for something same or next day.
Smart love bombers do it weeks or months ahead.
When someone bombards you with affection, intense emotions, and excess time/energy.
A manipulator uses love bombing to quickly build intimacy & trust.
Dumb love bombers will ask for something same or next day.
Smart love bombers do it weeks or months ahead.
10. False Apology
If someone apologizes to you & does the same thing again they are manipulating you.
”Actions speak louder than… NO, only actions speak.”
-Matt
If someone apologizes to you & does the same thing again they are manipulating you.
”Actions speak louder than… NO, only actions speak.”
-Matt
TLDR
Don’t be manipulated. Look out for:
1. Gas Lighting
2. Silent Treatment
3. Passive Aggressive
4. Criticism
5. Sarcasm
6. Insecurities
7. Exaggerations
8. Triangulation
9. Love Bomb
10. False Apology
Don’t be manipulated. Look out for:
1. Gas Lighting
2. Silent Treatment
3. Passive Aggressive
4. Criticism
5. Sarcasm
6. Insecurities
7. Exaggerations
8. Triangulation
9. Love Bomb
10. False Apology
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