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Dr. Nicole LePera

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Many parents push their adult children to have close relationships with each other.
Here's why it's perfectly natural to not have a close relationship with your sibling:

Many well-meaning parents love the idea of their adult children being close or "best friends." Typically, this comes from the part of them that has regret or disappointment with how their own relationship with siblings turned out.

Or, a belief that the closeness they have with their own sibling is something that everyone should experience.

These parents don't see their adult children as unique human beings with interests, hobbies, and personalty traits. So it can be difficult for them to not understand why you might not be compatible as friends.

We can love and appreciate our siblings, while also not sharing any of the same interests, values, or hobbies. For some people, the only thing they actually have in common with a sibling is they share the same parents.

The bond we have with our siblings is unique to us. There's no "right" or wrong relationship to have. Many people find supportive, aligned relationships outside of family and those bonds are equally important.

Do you feel pressure from your parents to have a specific relationship with your siblings? Share in the comments.

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