How to approach women at the gym ๐งต
(written by a guy who's been working out for 7 years and has actually tested all of these 5 variations)
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(written by a guy who's been working out for 7 years and has actually tested all of these 5 variations)
Thread ๐งต
First of all, it's important to notice that approaching chicks while they're working out in their yoga pants is one of the toughest environments out there - if not the toughest.
So before listening to your 'just go talk to her' guru - who has no idea of what he's talking about -
So before listening to your 'just go talk to her' guru - who has no idea of what he's talking about -
just understand that you actually need to be "tactical".
Why? Because if you screw it ONCE, that will be enough to screw your whole reputation at the gym.
So unless you're changing gyms or just making a trial training, that's the last thing you'll want to happen.
Why? Because if you screw it ONCE, that will be enough to screw your whole reputation at the gym.
So unless you're changing gyms or just making a trial training, that's the last thing you'll want to happen.
And then, the truth you don't want to hear: if you want to have the slightest chance of success, you need to be in shape. And I mean really jacked, not just slim/not fat.
I know it's a hard ๐ to swallow but it is what it is. So if you aren't there yet, skip this ๐งต (for now).
I know it's a hard ๐ to swallow but it is what it is. So if you aren't there yet, skip this ๐งต (for now).
1. She asks you something (usually 'how many sets you have left?' or 'can I take this barbell/weight?')
If this happens, seize the opportunity because a girl rarely does this at the gym.
For the first question, you can try the safe approach and say something 'We can alternate'.
If this happens, seize the opportunity because a girl rarely does this at the gym.
For the first question, you can try the safe approach and say something 'We can alternate'.
Using some banter, you could say 'Just 20 sets more, but no worries, it'll be fast...I just need 1h more' to see whether she bites and is like 'what?', while smiling or laughing, to which you can say 'Just joking', and see how she reacts/where the conversation goes to from there.
Regarding the second question, the only option is to use already banter from the start:
'Sure, you can take them, but it costs 20โฌ', and subtly smirk afterwards.
She'll probably laugh, and then you can introduce yourself or just say 'here you go', and go back to your training.
'Sure, you can take them, but it costs 20โฌ', and subtly smirk afterwards.
She'll probably laugh, and then you can introduce yourself or just say 'here you go', and go back to your training.
2. She's using a machine/equipment you want
This is by far the most difficult situation to "escalate" but on the other hand, if you ask her 'how many sets you have left' and she says 3-4, then suggest 'so maybe we can work in?'
You'll be surprised how many girls are ok with it.
This is by far the most difficult situation to "escalate" but on the other hand, if you ask her 'how many sets you have left' and she says 3-4, then suggest 'so maybe we can work in?'
You'll be surprised how many girls are ok with it.
3. She's really in shape and either doing crazy exercises or lifting more weight than many men.
Let's say she's doing a sequence of three exercises. When you find her resting (note: only talk to a girl at the gym when she's between sets, never during them), say something like:
Let's say she's doing a sequence of three exercises. When you find her resting (note: only talk to a girl at the gym when she's between sets, never during them), say something like:
Hey that's dope, you're killing yourself there. Where have you learned those exercises?"
Because she likes herself more than and above anything else, she'll probably tell you where but also the why, the how, etc, so here you have a great chance to talk to her for some minutes.
Because she likes herself more than and above anything else, she'll probably tell you where but also the why, the how, etc, so here you have a great chance to talk to her for some minutes.
In case she's lifting a lot of weight, just say something like 'Hey, I gotta say I'm impressed. You lift more than most guys around here!'
Because she loves herself, she'll probably smile and say 'thank you'. You can then ask 'so for how long have you been training?' or similar.
Because she loves herself, she'll probably smile and say 'thank you'. You can then ask 'so for how long have you been training?' or similar.
4. Correct her or give her some advice, in case she's doing an exercise incorrectly
This one only works if:
- You're visibly in great shape (so you know what you're talking about)
- She's clearly a beginner and has no idea about working out
Otherwise, DON'T use this approach.
This one only works if:
- You're visibly in great shape (so you know what you're talking about)
- She's clearly a beginner and has no idea about working out
Otherwise, DON'T use this approach.
5. Compliment or comment on something she's wearing
This one can be...very tricky.
NO, you don't want to say 'hey I like those pants, they fit you'.
NO, you don't want to say she looks sexy in her outfit.
But if she's wearing, e.g. a full blue outfit, and she's close to you,
This one can be...very tricky.
NO, you don't want to say 'hey I like those pants, they fit you'.
NO, you don't want to say she looks sexy in her outfit.
But if she's wearing, e.g. a full blue outfit, and she's close to you,
you can say something like 'I can see you like blue', and smile afterwards.
She'll probably smile and say something like 'yes', and you can either introduce yourself and go back to your training with a 'see you around',
or "escalate" a bit more on the conversation about colors.
She'll probably smile and say something like 'yes', and you can either introduce yourself and go back to your training with a 'see you around',
or "escalate" a bit more on the conversation about colors.
This is by far the bolder approach you can use at the gym, so only use it if:
- first, you feel super confident on that day/moment
- and she doesn't look the most stuck-up girl in the whole gym (meaning she looks around every now and then, not just with a bitch face to her phone)
- first, you feel super confident on that day/moment
- and she doesn't look the most stuck-up girl in the whole gym (meaning she looks around every now and then, not just with a bitch face to her phone)
Regardless of whichever of these 5 approaches you use, just understand that talking with girls at the gym is a PATIENCE/LONG-TERM game.
Unlike most environments, here you MUST take things slowly, otherwise everything will backfire on you.
Unlike most environments, here you MUST take things slowly, otherwise everything will backfire on you.
Therefore, always keep conversations/interactions brief.
Your goal is not to "game" her, but to make a difference and stand out from the crowd.
Remember the gym is a place filled with horny guys, where most girls don't feel comfortable.
Your goal is not to "game" her, but to make a difference and stand out from the crowd.
Remember the gym is a place filled with horny guys, where most girls don't feel comfortable.
So if you're show her that you're a cool, laid-back guy, she'll remember you.
And in case the interaction leads nowhere or there's no follow up on your approach, that's fine:
Just remember this is one of the hardest environments and you've already done more than 99% of guys.
And in case the interaction leads nowhere or there's no follow up on your approach, that's fine:
Just remember this is one of the hardest environments and you've already done more than 99% of guys.
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