Your sibling remembers your childhood differently.
That's because: there are multiple realities.
Why It's Ok To Disagree:
That's because: there are multiple realities.
Why It's Ok To Disagree:
Growing up together doesn't mean you share the same experience of your childhood. Or, that you feel the same way about your parents.
Many siblings have completely different experiences.
Many siblings have completely different experiences.
Parents have a different relationship with each of their children. They might pride themselves on treating their children equally, but all children bring out different traits in their parents. This is natural.
And as parents age, they evolve. The youngest child will get a different parent than the oldest child. It can be confusing when a sibling mentions memories of a parent and it's like you can't remember that version of them.
It's even more complicated if there is black sheep or golden child sibling. This makes the relationship between siblings competitive instead of collaborative. When siblings need to compete for the approval of parents, resentment builds.
It's ok to have a different experience of your upbringing than a sibling does. There are multiple realities. And in healthy dynamics, there's room for everyone's experiences of the past.
Even if they don't look the same.
Even if they don't look the same.
If you're working on re-building a relationship with a sibling, you don't need to focus on sharing the same experiences. Instead, focus on building: support, security, and freedom to fully express.
This experience can be so healing especially if you didn't grow up with these things in your childhood. To give each other the support your parent's couldn't fully give you is a gift.
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How is your relationship with your sibling?
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How is your relationship with your sibling?
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