Avoidant partners deny issues and are quick to feel smothered.
They cope by clinging to their independence or running from issues.
How To Deal With An Avoidant Partner:
They cope by clinging to their independence or running from issues.
How To Deal With An Avoidant Partner:
People with avoidant attachment want closeness, but also feel smothered and uncomfortable with it.
They've learned to not trust and use distance and independence as a coping mechanism.
They've learned to not trust and use distance and independence as a coping mechanism.
Someone with avoidant attachment might:
- have a history of quick relationships
- deny issues or downplay them
- pull away once they feel too close
- dissociate and/or stonewall their partners
- feel irritation around other people's needs
- have a history of quick relationships
- deny issues or downplay them
- pull away once they feel too close
- dissociate and/or stonewall their partners
- feel irritation around other people's needs
We're wired to connect, to need to depend on people, and to go to the people closest to us for emotional soothing. This becomes difficult when the person closest to us does not feel soothed by vulnerability or connectedness.
Through open conversations and flexibility, we can make it work with an avoidant partner. As long as they're open to and willing to work through their own patterns within the relationship.
Here's How To Cope:
1. Acknowledge it: understanding your partner's attachment style is key in understanding why they do what they do. Open up this conversation without judging your partner's behaviors or getting defensive.
1. Acknowledge it: understanding your partner's attachment style is key in understanding why they do what they do. Open up this conversation without judging your partner's behaviors or getting defensive.
2. See space in a new light: space is a love language for people who are avoidant. Giving space creates a situation where they feel understood and can actually create more connection.
3. Avoid pressure or high expectations: often when someone is avoidant, we try to pressure them to change, subconsciously. Instead, create the safety of understanding them while also being honest about your own needs.
4. Speak what you feel: avoidant partners can create a situation where we walk on eggshells. Where we're afraid to bring up issues because we might trigger their flight response. Avoidant partners will need to work through discomfort and defensiveness.
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