Helicopter parenting creates adults who are easily frustrated and entitled.
Children need to experience loss, rejection, and hurt.
HERE'S WHY:
Children need to experience loss, rejection, and hurt.
HERE'S WHY:
Many well-meaning parents don't want their children to experience pain. So, they attempt to protect them from their feelings. They see them struggling with something and step in to "fix" it.
This can be through buying them something, giving them a treat, or doing something for them that they could do for themselves. What this teaches a child is: "in times of stress, someone needs to rescue me in order for me to be ok."
When children are given the space to struggle and feel frustrated, they gain confidence. They start to understand they can find their own solutions. And, they slowly learn to cope with the reality that life brings a steady flow of disappointment.
And that's ok.
The reason many adults cannot cope with disappointment is because they were never shown that it's a natural part of life. That it's ok to be sad. That it's ok to cry and hurt. That things don't always go our way because they're not meant to.
The reason many adults cannot cope with disappointment is because they were never shown that it's a natural part of life. That it's ok to be sad. That it's ok to cry and hurt. That things don't always go our way because they're not meant to.
When a child is rescued from bad feelings or the natural consequences of their choices, entitlement is created. Entitlement is simply the belief that another person is responsible for making us feel better or making our life easier.
Everyone wants their child to be happy.
But, the real gift is being raised around adults who understand that being happy isn't a realistic expectation of life. The real gift is having a supportive adult who allows you to feel angry, mad, or upset.
But, the real gift is being raised around adults who understand that being happy isn't a realistic expectation of life. The real gift is having a supportive adult who allows you to feel angry, mad, or upset.
The real gift is being raised around adults who step back as you grow up and let you make mistakes. Who trust you to follow your gut and intuition even if they "know better."
That's how we learn to know better...
That's how we learn to know better...
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