The parentified son believes his role is to keep everyone around him happy. But inside he's drowning in doubt and wonders if he'll ever meet someone who appreciates him for who he is, not what he can do for them.
The parentified son was the "little man" of the house when he was just a child. He felt the weight of his mother's stress and stopped showing any fear or sadness because she looked to him to comfort her. He still feels he's responsible for her life choices.
The parentified son is filled with anger from his childhood emotional neglect. It comes out when he snaps at his partner or his children who walk on eggshells around him. He hates how he reacts, but no one ever taught him to regulate his emotions.
The parentified son believes his role is to take care of every member of his family. No one showed him that boundaries are healthy. And that no single person is meant to take on every burden of the adults around them.
The parentified son became the version of himself that would get his father's praise and still has no idea who he truly is. At 40 he wakes up and wonder who's life he's living and wonders why he feels so empty.
The parentified son can use women to fulfill his wounds. He seeks superficial attention to temporarily numb his insecurities. He's unfaithful because he's easily overwhelmed with the needs of a longterm partner, and desperate for admiration.
The parentified son often calls people "soft." Never having the opportunity to develop a sense of self, he copes with his insecurities by creating a persona of strength. He doesn't understand confidence is quiet and compassionate.
The parentified son believes he can only be valued by working and providing. He's a workaholic to cope with his anxiety. He's burnt out and needs a break, but he also fears stillness and can't relax without feeling guilty.
The parentified son carries so much regret. Regret for what he didn't do and how he could have done better. He punishes himself through: not taking care of his body, drinking too much, and any form of escapism available to him.
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