The impact of having a narcissistic mother
A THREAD:
A THREAD:
Being raised by a narcissistic mother means your mother hasn’t fully emotionally matured.
Her main focus is her own needs and the way she’s perceived. Image is everything.
Her main focus is her own needs and the way she’s perceived. Image is everything.
She has high levels of shame and feelings of inadequacy that she projects onto her children. This will lead to her being highly critical and demanding. For many people, their mother is their first bully.
But she might act differently in public.
But she might act differently in public.
Growing up with a narcissistic mother meant hearing:
-“You’re difficult, too sensitive, or dramatic.”
-“I guess I’m just a horrible mother.
-“You could really lose some weight.”
-“You’re difficult, too sensitive, or dramatic.”
-“I guess I’m just a horrible mother.
-“You could really lose some weight.”
-“I never did that; you are remembering wrong.”
-“You could really lose some weight.”
-“I sacrificed everything for you!”
-“You’ll miss me when I’m gone.
-You’ll regret this when I’m dead!”
-“You could really lose some weight.”
-“I sacrificed everything for you!”
-“You’ll miss me when I’m gone.
-You’ll regret this when I’m dead!”
It also meant not hearing:
-Anything positive about who you are
-Encouragement and belief in your capability
-Any apologies or accountability when she hurt your feelings
-Anything positive about who you are
-Encouragement and belief in your capability
-Any apologies or accountability when she hurt your feelings
-“I’m here to listen. What are you feeling?”
-“I can’t imagine how difficult that was for you. Tell me about it.”
-“I shouldn’t have acted that way, and I understand the impact.”
-“I can’t imagine how difficult that was for you. Tell me about it.”
-“I shouldn’t have acted that way, and I understand the impact.”
Children of narcissistic mothers know that if they express how they feel, there will be no space. Everything will be about their mother and how this makes her feel.
The entire emotional energy of the home is controlled by her.
The entire emotional energy of the home is controlled by her.
They carry an invisible mother wound that manifests as:
-Low self worth
-Dislike or distrust in women
-People pleasing
-Body image issues
-A belief they must perform or achieve for love
-Low self worth
-Dislike or distrust in women
-People pleasing
-Body image issues
-A belief they must perform or achieve for love
-Fear of being perceived
-Chronic anxiety and depression
-A history of dysfunctional romantic relationships
-Chronic anxiety and depression
-A history of dysfunctional romantic relationships
Children of narcissistic mothers tend to be people pleasers who perform or achieve for love. They were never loved for who they were. They were only loved for how they made their mother feel.
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