Stop chasing someone's love and approval.
Start attracting emotionally available people.
Here's How:
Start attracting emotionally available people.
Here's How:
Fighting for affection and attention can be highly addictive. Letting go feels impossible. We start to believe we can "get" someone to change. To finally see us. And to treat us the way we deserve to be treated.
But behavior is the greatest communication.
And we have to mature to release the idea of who someone could be and accept the reality of who they are.
And we have to mature to release the idea of who someone could be and accept the reality of who they are.
Emotionally unavailable people can feel: exciting, charming, and interesting. It's not that they're mysterious, it's that their inconsistency triggers a fight or flight response.
And that anxious feels like passion and attraction.
And that anxious feels like passion and attraction.
Your role isn't to chase anyone.
If you want an emotionally available partner, you have to accept the reality that there won't be the intense and addictive highs and lows that come with inconsistent people.
If you want an emotionally available partner, you have to accept the reality that there won't be the intense and addictive highs and lows that come with inconsistent people.
You have to teach yourself how to feel ok without the constant triggers of fight or flight in relationships.
You might also have to face the reality that the wounded parts of you crave someone who makes you work for love.
You might also have to face the reality that the wounded parts of you crave someone who makes you work for love.
The more you refuse to chase, the more you attract stability. The more honest you are about your needs, the more you will find people who are receptive to meeting those needs.
Your role is to stay open.
To not seek "passion" and excitement and instead seek consistency and compassion.
Instead of charm, seek a person whose words match their actions.
To not seek "passion" and excitement and instead seek consistency and compassion.
Instead of charm, seek a person whose words match their actions.
When you start respecting yourself, your energy, and your needs you attract people who do the same. When you release your role as the fixer and chaser, you start attracting responsible adults who not only take, but give.
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